Teaching my daughter 'gentle'

Nova - posted on 11/28/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




Ok, so my daughter is 11 months old & absolutely amazing. She loves to come up & give my husband & i kisses. She often reaches out to touch our faces, but is very rough in doing this. I am trying to teach her 'gentle'. Does anyone out there have any good tips or advice as to how to do this?


Krista - posted on 11/28/2010




It'll take awhile, as they're she's still learning fine motor skills. You definitely don't want to scold her, because she's not hurting you on purpose, and you don't want her to think that you're angry with her for touching you. What I did with my son, if he grabbed or touched too roughly, was take his hand and gently stroke my face with it, while stroking his face just as gently with my other hand, while smiling and saying, "Gentle touch! Yes! Gentle! Good!" and repeating it over and over like an idiot. It took awhile, (he's 15 months now), and he does still sometimes get rough if he gets overexcited, but for the most part he's a lot better about it.


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I did the same thing as the other ladies, with the gentle face strokes on my cheek. It takes time and patience but she'll catch on. I also used the same method to teach my son to be nice to the cats.

Katherine - posted on 11/28/2010




Keep doing it. My daughter is 20mo and I taught her from 6mo. She still remembers!!!! So when I say "gentle" she knows what I mean.

Jayde - posted on 11/28/2010




yep agree with krista- take her hand and gently stroke face gently- i use to say "Aww, gentle, Aw gentle" by the time she was 15 months she would say "awww" when she would gently stroke things its sooo cute :)

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