teen age parenting
Ev - posted on 02/01/2016
I agree 100% with Raye. You have to be strong in your convictions about the rules and consequences. I have raised two teens to adults and they are good citizens. Some rules they had were:
1) Respect your adults in your live or at least show respectfulness.
2) Treat others how you would want to be treated.
3) Do homework.
4) Help with household chores.
5) No dating until age 16.
6) Curfew time. (Depended on age and the law of minors being out.)
7) If they were up to keep the volume on TV or electronics to a minimum level.
8) I had to know about Facebook and other things online or you loose the internet.
If they broke the rules they had consequences. My son would have outbursts about his games for example and I would right then tell him that either he quit then and there or his video games would be gone. It did not take long for him to make the right choice. Also once he got caught not using the computer right and he lost the use of the internet for a long time. He eventually did learn his lesson and got to use it again.
The point is I was consistent and he learned his lessons then rather than later. My daughter was one to not want to do her homework. It took a couple years and threats of not moving on to the next grade to get her to realize she would fail and have to repeat a grade. She got better at it and went on to college.
Raye - posted on 02/01/2016
You need to come up with consequences for their actions. Tell them the rules, tell them what will happen for breaking the rules, and follow through quickly EVERY TIME with consequences. Then don't argue. If you have made a decision, it is not up for negotiation. Tell them your decision is final, and then ignore the whining. If they keep it up, enact consequences for their whining. If they try to have an adult conversation as to why they feel your decision is unjust, listen to them. If what they say makes sense, tell them you will keep that in mind for next time, but for this time your original decision stands. Don't be a push-over.
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