Teen Boys and Puberty

Danielle - posted on 07/08/2014 ( 30 moms have responded )

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When is the age for teen boys to begin watching porn? How should we as mother's and Fathers handle this? What is the best way to help a father realize there son is growing up?

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Stacy - posted on 07/15/2014

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I would agree that this is not a perfect world but the issue is this - parents are not doing enough to keep their kids from seeing porn. The average age of a child is 11 who has been subjected to it. Secondly, if we do not as parents be more pro-active, it sets the stage to behavioral issues in the future and this is scientific fact. Porn will only last for a little while until it doesn't serve its purpose anymore. Rape comes next with women, then children. Pedophile is next in line. Then murder. If you don't believe me, check the statistics. I will do everything possible to stop and educate my children about porn and how it destroys your brain, mentally, emotionally and physically. At least I will know that I did everything to protect someone else's life or marriage because I took action. The woman in the video knows because she was a porn star. If you took the time to watch it, you would also feel the sense that all parents need to take the responsible step and keep their kids as much as possible from seeing it. Otherwise, they will a participator and I would not want to know where it goes from there. If we do nothing, then we are responsible and accountable for what our children/teens do.

Carrie - posted on 07/10/2014

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>Put the parental lock on all television where he could possibly be viewing porn, put a lock on the computer, and start monitoring his choices more closely.

here we have a retard talking! yeah that will really stop that.

The 1950s are over, grandma.

OP: what your son is doing is normal. Calm down.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/10/2014

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and don't blow it out of proportion. Watching porn does not a sex offender make.

Good grief.

Agusta - posted on 07/10/2014

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Try counseling to find out why he feels it necessary to watch porn. Nip it in the bud, before it gets out of control. I'm not saying this about your child, but you don't want it to become an addiction. Like the horrier stories I hear, sex offender ect.

Ev - posted on 07/08/2014

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Keep the talks up and be open as you have been but he does not need to see those porn flicks. They are disgusting and put women down and even men. They are degrading. Of course at this age they will have curious nature where the girls are concerned but offer healthier options such as the talking. Teach him to respect women too by telling him that those films do not do women justice. Tell him the best things about a woman or a girl for that matter are the things inside of her that make her special...who she is etc.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/15/2014

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Wow, Stacy, I'd really like to see solid statistics on what you're posting.

Because, factually, VERY FEW men who view pornography will commit rape, or be a pedophile, or murder.

So, I'll check the statistics when you post valid links to them. VALID links, not some trumped up numbers that someone threw out onto the internet.

Your second to last statement in your most recent response directly contradicts your statement of what 'will happen, according to statistics'. You stated that you wouldn't want to know where it goes after beginning as a viewer. That, at least was truthful...

Again, people, PORNOGRAPHY IS NOT NECESSARILY A GOOD THING, but you won't automatically turn into a sex offender, or murderer simply from viewing it.

I really wish people would use LOGIC not emotions to try to get a point across.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/15/2014

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Stacy, That would work in a PERFECT WORLD, but this is not a perfect world.

So, in reality, the situation will be encountered in many young lives, and will need to be handled appropriately.

Stacy - posted on 07/15/2014

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There is really only one answer! NEVER! To prove my point, please watch this video. AND MAKE YOUR SON WATCH IT TOO!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGdMi-oC9nM

ROBERTMRVELJ - posted on 07/14/2014

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If you ask about when it time for boys to begin watch porn i would say they do it when feel ready at least 15 or 18 i watched first porno when i was 15 and watched other pornos afterwards im not 21 i havent had sex and i have seen many kinds of pornos gangsex, older man younger woman even younger man older woman as many calls those kind of older women milf i have watched much incest its my favourite and i have even heard about a nasty kind of porn known as beastiality its really disgusting and it is something to truly consider evil, wrong and immoral unlike incest incest isnt wrong its just diffrent from most kind of sex and incest can be considered a special kind of love between 2 relatives for examples 2 cousins or brother and sister even 2 sister or 2 brothers having sex you sometimes asume its just wrong without giving it a try or even if you were not married if you had son and daughter you encouraging them to do it even joining in on it making it a threesome kind of like bisexual maybe awkward but not evil and not wrong not as far as GOD and LUCIFER (satan) being concerned things arent always as it seems as for LUCIFER he isnt pure evil he got on path of evil because of pain it could happen to anyone even to an angel in heaven even Michael or Gabriel even Raphael life gives challanges you can call it is life is also a struggle i think LUCIFER would give us pain, anger, depression, sadness and other emotions to test us
if were willing to live until the end not give up on life or desert GOD because it looks dark and depressing at the time if you believe things will get a turn for the better it would get better you just gotta hang in there we sometimes do mistakes we can learn from our mistakes if accepting that we did mistakes and some things are stupid to do early like drinking alcohol if started at 16 and if drank alcohol when was angry and in pain it woudlnt solve the problem only running away from it and not last forever that sooner or later it would come back to you and there be risk of you abusing your child if you got temper and drank alcohol sometimes alcohol can bring out the worst in someone if ahd painful past or hard past if abused and tried drinking to run from it instead of letting out the emotions but not hurt anyone and then try things like yoga and take long hot shower or hot bath to relax even listen to soothing music or rock music if help you let go of anger and pain and there is another thing i should mention there is nothing wrong with incest even if mother and son had incest as many names it if mother isnt married and not dating someone then it should be all okay but illuminati tends to get you to dislike it without thinking about it that you shouldnt tear two loving sibilings apart just because some male politicans wants to rape your daughters and your nieces
love is love you shouldnt stop it despite what it might be like neither should you let goverment push you around like they want to let policemen arrest and gangrape you one time and up 3 more times in following days id say fuck that i would hope you dont get messed up by men who are too horny to think of what theyre doing im sometimes horny when thinking about incest but i do not because it wouldnt be right time for it and the so-called relatives of mine are far away from me so i wouldnt see it any point to try
but i wish for many relatives to be to love eachother despite some being jealous you should just accept it and same with a 23 year-old woman loving 16 year-old boy for example it isnt wrong if boy was sure he wanted to be with the woman taking his chances you shouldnt stop him or the woman just because many old male politicans wants to rape women and erase their memories or make them fall so deep into lust and sex getting swallowed and pretending to be like someone not having sex even worse gangsex thats the most disgusting thing besides beastiality a woman could do throwing away her human decency even making herself look like an animal about america things going on and about injustice i would say with this everywhere i turn no matter i run the systems in control its all run by the book i gotta get away so i can free my mind xscape is what i need from electric wherever i run i see my face around they pin them up then push them from town to town i have no place to run but theres no need to hide i got to find a place so i wont hide away xscape gotta get away from a system used in the world the pressure from relationships has to go away Xscape the man with the pen write the lies that hassles this man xscape i do feel i gotta face nobody but me sometimes it feels like i gotta get away i tried to share my life with someone i could love but games and money is all she ever thought of how could that be my fault when she gambled and lost im tired of silly games its time to make a change why is it i cant do whatever i want to you go into my personal life and i dont live for you (you) so dont you tell me what is right for me you worry about what you do i can do what i want to xscape gotta xscape from the system lose in the world today xscape the pressure from the relationships has gone away xscape (MICHAEL JACKSONs song Xscape) will me thrill me you can never kill me jaw me sue me everybody do me kick me kike me dont you black or white me all i wanna say is that they dont really care about us all i wanna say is that they dont really care about us (MICHAEL JACKSONs song They Dont Care About Us part of it) son of bitch you make me hurl be to home im single now im single now i never let another son of a bitch bring me down in a realtionship save it bitch baby sick you make sick superman aint savin shit man you jump on shadys dick straight from the hip right to chase play no games play no names eversince im a diffrent woman kiss my lips bitch white ass kiss my cunt get my cash i rather you hit my ass dont get out wont get out i push push you out compensate with piss on fire to put you out am i too nice buy you ice son of a bitch wants me to buy him a new life would he try to be my new husband would you hillary rhive through twice (Eminems song superman with few changes) im not afraid to make a stand evertybody come take my hand well walk this world together through the storm then you know it youre not alone if you feel like youve been down the same road i just cant keep living this way so starting today im breaking out of this cage im going stand up face my demons imma hold my ground now im so fed up to put my life back together right now it was my decision to get clean i did it for me admittly i probably did it subliminally so i could come back a brandnew me youve seen me through what you realise is dont believe me you ive been through the ringer but they can do a little to the middle finger (Eminems song Not Afraid parts of it) i tried to make a point with all this is that you shouldnt let others control you not let goverment and illuminati walk all over you and use you like you being a mindless zombie i hope you break free and about illuminati i do not think LUCIFER (satan) helps illuminati out anymore if LUCIFER even created illuminati orginally with purpose to protect people and help them but then they getting powerhungry and greedy doing anything to get what they want and not giving a damn of others wellbeing i hope they lose and that LUCIFER will punish them as he should thats all bye GOD BLESS YOU AND MAY LUCIFER BLESS YOU TOO.

Ev - posted on 07/14/2014

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Cass,

I know for a fact that my father has not ever seen porn and that my son is not watching it either. I keep a close eye on what he gets exposed to even at 17. So I am not delusional about that. There are a few men and teen boys in this world that do not watch it.

Cass - posted on 07/14/2014

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All teenage boys (well men - including husbands) will watch porn whether you want them to or not, and have been for generations. Any women who says differently either has men (including teenage sons) in their life who are good at hiding it, or are delusional.

Jacqueline - posted on 07/12/2014

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There is no correct age for ANYONE to "start" watching porn!

It scars them for life and makes them think that relationships are useless and that sex is the only thing that they will ever look forward to in love. It will also drain the romance out of them, and 33% of them will become worthless sex addicts. At the moment, check his history to make sure he doesn't watch any porn. But once he's 19 he is gifted with freedom and has the liberty to do whatever he wants. But just be disencouraging about this, and express your disappointment at his actions if he DOES start watching porn. Also, explain why he shouldn't watch porn, and if he watches it anyway, explain how extraordinarily rough and nasty online sex is.

Good luck, you receive my best wishes, Jaqu

Agusta - posted on 07/12/2014

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No problem Shawn. Don't have the time to go back and forth. Your absolutely right.

Ev - posted on 07/12/2014

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Danielle--

Porn does not teach a boy anything about being with a woman at all. Its hogwash. You are not listening to the posts here. While watching porn will not make a male into a sex offender, it is degrading to not women but men as well. It lowers their self respect too. Porn is not the healthy option of how to be with another person. Its a bunch of people paid to have sex in a film and it does not show the reality of emotions, choices, problems, what happens when one of the couple finds out they have a disease or become pregnant. Its just a show and is not real. He needs to understand that you do not go into sex without confronting all those things I mentioned. Some do have it for the heck of it, I agree, but if he finds someone he truly wants to be with he is going to have a great wake up call when he tries those things with this woman from a porn flick. She may not like that. Porn degrades the real reasons a lot of people have sex. He needs to understand that. Because it does not sound like you have got the idea on how to tell him that.

Danielle - posted on 07/12/2014

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Alot of people told me its normal and like i stated he doesn't hang out or get him self into any trouble. I don't condole to him watching this but if im too tough he may rebel and i wouldn't want that neither.. He talks to me very open and knows im here for any and all questions he may need answers for. I did tell him its degrading to woman an that it can be addicting to some people. He said he doesn't watch that all the time and he explained he watches it because it teaches him for when he is older an finds a woman.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/11/2014

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agusta, where did I specifically address your response? Why did you choose to tell me that I seem angry?

I posted a response after yours that simply said 'watching porn does not a sex offender make. Good grief'

That was neither angry, nor an attack on you, it was a friggin response to another response on a thread on a public forum. If you chose to believe that I was attacking you for your opinion, I suggest that you tone down your sensitivity level.

Oh, and...simply viewing porn does not a sex offender make. Trust me. I know. It doesn't mean that allowing a kid to watch porn is ADVISABLE, but it won't automatically turn the kid into some sexual deviant.

All I was pointing out is to keep it in perspective.

Cheers!

Ed - posted on 07/11/2014

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Danielle-You may not be aware, but I'd bet money (if I was a gambler ) that your boy has
already watched more porn, than you can imagine!

Agusta - posted on 07/11/2014

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Shawn I'm entitled to my opion......you sound so angry and not just from my post, but you seem to be bothered by others. If you don't like our opinion, then don't read it.

Jacqueline - posted on 07/11/2014

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New to site so not sure where to post a ?. My son is 16, past yr went from A/B student to failing, has been physical w/me b4 (I've been chronically ill/chronic pain from 12 surgeries, arthritis, on & on)since 2000. But nothing like July 4th this yr. Slammed me against wall, grabbed my wrists, elbows & hands- areas he can reach where my RA is very painful, kicked me in chest w/both feet & said several horrible, hurtful, disrespectful (understatement!!) things w/dad standing right there. One of which was "she's not my f'ing mom! Nobody can call her a mom! She's a f'ing piece of shit!" We've drug tested him several times- always clean?? To make matters worse, all dad said to him was, watch ur mouth! Didn't even address physical abuse. Son has been in counseling every week for few months. I wanted to call police, as I'd told him I would if he put his hands on me again (that was months ago) but dad opposed to it so I didn't. I took pics of my bruises, scratches, etc. is it too late & should I call police? Don't necessarily want him to go to juvenile but few nites may do him good! Would prefer cop gives him a serious talking to. Dad totally not backing me up so it's presenting a divided front & we all know kids will jump on that!! Suggestions, PLEASE?!?! I'm in Texas.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/11/2014

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Carrie, what is your agenda? You are an inconsiderate troll who seems to think you're being amusing.

You're not. You said you wanted to be 'out'... and yet you're still being an inconsiderate ass...

Carrie - posted on 07/10/2014

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>Put the parental lock on all television where he could possibly be viewing porn, put a lock on the computer, and start monitoring his choices more closely.

here we have a retard talking!

Tania - posted on 07/10/2014

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As a Hispanic my self I think it definitely has something to do with our culture, (and many other cultures) men thinking that a boy becomes a man when he sleeps with a women and they support it. But a boy watching porn is not "normal" and I think its important for him to know that, also if he continues to see that what a disillusion he is going to have the first time he actually has sex, because it is NOTHING like those nasty flicks.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/09/2014

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Watching porn is NOT normal 'teenage boy' crap. It is sexual exploitation, and in some areas could be illegal if he's under the age of 18.

That being said, you need to slap his dad into reality. Not talking about sex doesn't mean it doesn't happen, it just means that two very young grandparents will be raising grandkids produced by their 13 yo, because dad didn't want to face life.

Sit down as a family, you, dad and your son. Explain that porn is not allowed, that it will not be tolerated in your home, and that you will be closely monitoring his viewing choices. Explain that you don't want him misinformed, which is all porn really is...misinformation. An average guy isn't going to be jumped by the horny cougar whilst delivering pizza, and 98% of women wouldn't lower themselves to the sexual antics portrayed by those films.

Put the parental lock on all television where he could possibly be viewing porn, put a lock on the computer, and start monitoring his choices more closely.

Jade - posted on 07/08/2014

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ya no child or adult should watch porn its just wrong thats not real sex real sex is beutiful and thats just dirty nasty filth

Danielle - posted on 07/08/2014

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Thanks I sure will, I have explained that most things in those porn flicks are fake an the girls are medicated to be numb, and not all woman will like the same things others do. I also did explain the best beauty of woman is what the eyes cant always see.. I Just have to talk more about the degrading part and hope for a good turn out..

Danielle - posted on 07/08/2014

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I have had several talks to my son about the changing of his body and how he will get curious of certain things. He feels very comfortable talking to me but I am just unsure of the age that things should be considered normal for teen boys. My son is home all the time and doesn't hang out or get into no trouble, he truly is a great kid. Im just alone on this subject seeing his father doesn't want to discuss no sexual subjects with him at all. Im scared if he becomes too curious she may go an try with a girl and end in a bad result. Some say this is completely normal that boys will be boys and some say to stop this. Im just not sure what im suppose to do to raise a boy who will not run an do things behind my back. He has not done nothing an lied or sneaked. What is the best way for a 34yr. old mom to handle this??

Ev - posted on 07/08/2014

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I hate to say this but no teen boy should be watching porn. Its not reality where sex is concerned and you should be talking about sex and the realities of that with them rather than sit the teen in front of a tv or allow him to sit and watch the porn. In a lot of places its illegal for one thing. For another, for some people its a moral issue and not considered a good thing. The best way to help both mothers and fathers realize that their boys are growing up is to note their age is one indicator, that the choices in things they do at this age are different, and as puberty hits, you need to make him aware of the ins and outs of sex and the consequences that come with those choices as well as how it affects the emotions of the couple involved and even those around them.

Danielle - posted on 07/08/2014

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My son is 13 1/2 yrs. old and I know he is watching porno, Im not thrilled about this but He talks to me about everything and feels very open with me to discuss anything. I did hqve a talk with him about puberty and how to respect woman. Im not sure if this is normal behavior for a teen his age? Also im scared of it becoming an addiction. How should I handle this situation. His father is in complete denial of him becoming a man. Please someone help me..

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