Teen Daughter wants birth control

Daniela - posted on 06/20/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )




My 15 year old daughter and my only child just asked to be put on birth control. I was very surprised she had the courage to ask. I tried to press the subject of sex and ask if she was sexually active but she completely deflected the question. Should I put her on birth control? What should I do if I find out she is sexually active?


MaryAnn - posted on 06/20/2015




If she is making a proactive decision, please... please support her. Teens are teens and they'll do what teens do...the last thing you need is for her to feel like she shouldn't talk to you about it.
Show her where the nearest sexual health clinic is, express the importance of condoms, and wait for her to come to you with the rest.
If she's made this decision... theres not a whole lot you can do at this point. Best assure her that you are a safe person to talk to, that she is worth protecting, and someone she can turn to if things get ugly- *thats* when you can step in.

Dove - posted on 06/21/2015




I do agree w/ these ladies, but will add a little something... and I may be way off base here, but the fact that she was confident enough to ask to go on birth control and then deflect your further inquiries would have me concerned that she may be feeling pressured to have sex. Like I said... I could be WAY off base, but I would want to be talking to her more in depth and reminding her that she does NOT have to have sex if she is not ready and that it is much better to wait until marriage... or at the very least until she is out of high school. But we all know that a determined teenager is going to do what they are going to do no matter what steps we parents may put in place to prevent it. Also remind her that no birth control is 100% effective and even w/ hormonal birth control she NEEDS to use a condom each and every time to further prevent pregnancy and to limit the possibilities of any STIs.

Kate - posted on 06/21/2015




I would have her start meeting with a doctor to get the birth control and exams. Pick a practitioner you trust and your daughter can develop a relationship with another trusted individual and might open up with the doctor.


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Allie - posted on 06/24/2015




When my daughter was 15 I started her on birth control. If she asked then either she started to have sex or is thinking about it. Either way do it. It's better to be safe then become a grandma. Of course talk about safe sex and birth control is only a tool to help prevent pregnancy but is not 100%. The best thing to do is use condom's as well. Well the best thing to do is not have sex. But I would rather help in her safety then do nothing because she will have sex with or with out it.

Michelle - posted on 06/21/2015




I agree with MaryAnn.
I would also stress the importance of condoms, not just in the prevention of pregnancy but STI's. Just because she's on birth control doesn't mean she can't get an STI that could cause infertility.

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