Teen depression

Tracy - posted on 03/06/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter started self harming again and blames me for everything. She has been hospitalized, has a councilor, she is on medication and I have done everything possible to try to help her cope with her depression and always there for her but she says that I am the reason for her depression. I have now stepped back and not getting so involved with giving advice as I don't want to be blame for anything else. She has so much support from her family and yet has nothing good to say about us all. I honestly think she is bi polar and making things up in her head. Its frustrating as mu husband and I are feeling the stress and we have 2 other children in the household that need us too! Please help me as I am starting to feel like a failure and all effort seems to have been worthless. All I want is for my daughter to get better and get out of this fantasy world that she's wrapped up in.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/06/2014

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Have you had scheduled therapy sessions as mother daughter to try and work out your differences?

Tracy - posted on 03/06/2014

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She has been evaluated by a therapist and has a strong family history of depression and mental disorders but she has been diagnosed with depression and anxiety and properly medicated.
We used to have a close bond that was unseperatable and she could come to me about anything. We would have mother /daughter time very often. Now she doesn't want to talk to me as she says I'm difficult to talk to and when I try to spend time with her all she does is put me down and criticize everything that I do.
I feel like I am starting to get depressed as well and like nothing I do will help. Maybe she needs to learn on her own but I cant just watch her keep making the same mistakes or worry that one day she might react on her suicidal thoughts. I'm worried, frustrated, angry, sad, confused, feeling useless, and so many other feelings that I do not know how to deal with all at once. I just want my daughter to get better so I can live with a sigh of relief. At least for a little moment while I get back to some normal sleeping and eating habits. This used to be all about her but now it has got to the point where it has effected me as well. Its taking a toll on us both.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/06/2014

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Have you had her evaluated by a therapist? I see counselor, but not sure if that means school counselor or a doctor. I am sorry you and your family are going through such a rough time.

One suggestion, have you tried having mother daughter time not talking about this stuff? Going out shopping, or pedicure, movie, rock climbing, something maybe physical together to bond and release energy?

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