Teen looks at school as social outlet

Ursula - posted on 03/12/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi,I decided to leave a question so here we go,I have a 17yr.old daughter, and she is motivated to hangout, but not to go to school,I've been very frustrated, as a single parent I worry this rebelliousness,daughter is self distracting,I suggested she get a GED,anyone have any suggestions??

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Dove - posted on 03/12/2016

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If she is not doing her work and passing her classes... it's time to start removing privileges. Does she have a job and pay for her own modes of transportation, her cell phone, any extras in life? If you pay for ANYTHING other than her basic meals, absolute necessary clothes, and her transportation directly to and from school... you don't have to do it anymore. Even if she does pay for things like her phone... she has to earn the right to use it if she's living at home and not paying rent.

School is her main job right now until she graduates from high school (or gets her GED and gets a job... and would be paying rent at that point as well), so if she's not doing her job to the best of her abilities... she doesn't need any extra privileges.

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Dove - posted on 03/12/2016

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And... legally you likely can not evict her until her 18th birthday... but if she is not complying w/ her responsibilities you can serve her an eviction notice now that becomes effective on her 18th birthday (unless she chooses to comply beforehand).

This is all assuming she is not doing any work and not passing her classes. If she is at least pulling C's... I'd just be talking to her about her future and what she plans to do once she graduates... because she wouldn't be getting a 'free ride' at home anymore... so she needs to start figuring out what she really wants out of life and what she needs to do in order to make that happen.

Sarah - posted on 03/12/2016

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Most teens use school for a social outlet, is she simply going and not going to class or doing her work? What have you tried as consequences to get her to comply? Does she want to go to college?

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