Bonnie Ann - posted on 08/23/2014 ( 30 moms have responded )
okay, now they're lot of parents out there that don't know what to do when their teen is sneaking out in the middle of the night. i must say that i am not a parent, nor an adult. I am in fact a 15 year old girl... and i have left my home in the middle of the night and been caught by my parents...
i have a lot to say on this topic and i know whats happens and how your teen would think. The first time i ever sneak out, i did not get drunk, i actually meet up with a group of my friends (all girls) and they were drinking and i didn't. Just because your teen is sneaking out does not aways mean that they're doing it to get drunk or to have sex... or to do drugs. You should never assume what they did, you have to ask them and the more calm you are the more likey your teen will tell you and openen up, if they don't tell you should tell them about how it made you feel and give them time to tell you what they did and what they were thinking. don't push or be nastry about the situtation, you will in fact make it worst for yourself.
my parents were mad, and i knew they would be... but being mad and yelling at me just made it worst... i'm not saying that, just because i'm a "brat" i'm saying that to benefit you. I know that no teen should have to sneak out and it took me a long time to realise that and it will take your teen a long time too... you as a parent have to be there even when we stuff up and yelling doesn't help, what us teens what is a loving and understanding parent who talks to us. a lot of people made say that this doesn't always work and your right it doesnt always work... you still have to ground us and do that type of thing aswell but you should always be soft before you harden on us. -bonnie.