Jessica - posted on 06/15/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )
I've been having lots of issues with my 15-year-old son - not going to school, smoking weed, hanging out with kids who I don't want him to hang out with. He's usually pretty respectful to me and he helps out when I ask him to, but he always wants something in return. He's pleasant, but manipulative and usually just does what he wants. Anyway, I hacked into his facebook account because he seemed very anxious to get $10 from me and I've been afraid that he's using more than just weed. When I checked his facebook messages, I saw that he and some friends "ran a train" on a girl. I investigated more and saw that my son initiated the whole thing because this girl with low self-esteem really liked him and she agreed to service him and a couple of his friends. He and his friends taped and photographed the whole thing. Then my son sent some pictures to some of his friends. I mean, I saw a picture of this girl giving my son oral sex and my son looking into the camera and giving a thumbs up and smiling at his friend! I am so disgusted and so sad for this girl. My son's only response was that she agreed, so he doesn't see the big deal. He doesn't care. He has no empathy for her at all. I saw a message from her to him where she tells him she wants to be with him, but just the two of them. Then another message where she asks him if he's still hers, and he just replied "naah." I don't understand. Where did I go wrong? I thought I always taught him to respect women. I even had a talk with him about this very issue because it had happened to a girl in the high school where I teach and he said he wouldn't do that. To see that he was the one that initiated it. I just can't understand. I am actually disgusted by him. He won't talk about it with me other than to say that she "didn't' say 'no'" so what's the problem. She also didn't know she was being videotaped! She also actually liked my son and was trying to impress him, I suppose. So sad. I don't like my son and I don't know what to do. I did make an appt for counseling.