Teenage daughter

April - posted on 06/16/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 15, next week. She is adopted from Taiwan, we got her at age 1. She has some attachment issues but never fully diagnosed. Her adopted dad and I divorced 2 years ago bc he was a mentally abusive narcissist. I am recently remarried to a man that has no children. I am frustrated with my daughter bc she refuses to talk with me, share or let me into her life. I have done everything I can from, divorce her dad to get her away from him, take her to counseling, love her, respect her, give her all I can. I don't know what else to do.
She has an unhealthy bond to her dad and does not see his lies or controlling behaviors.
I keep thinking this is a teenage phase but it has been going on since I got her.
Any suggestions?

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Sarah - posted on 06/17/2016

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Not trying g to be harsh. You have to recognize you and your role as well as your husband's role. Aknowleding that will help lead you to a solution.

April - posted on 06/17/2016

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Wow, that's harsh. I had forgotten why I don't post things on chat websites like this. You just reminded me.

Sarah - posted on 06/16/2016

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You have to recognize that you created that situation with her dad. You adopted her and brought her into that situation....which was really unfair to her. She deserved a home that was healthy and instead your desire to have (adopt) a child put you first. You just have to keep trying. I suggest looking into Karyn Purvis and some of her books and dvd's. She is really good and works with many adopted kids of all ages.

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