Danielle - posted on 11/02/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )
I am at my wits end. I have a 16 year old who I do a ton for and has always been on the needy side. She has some ADD type issues in school with reading and writing but excels in math and science. She has struggled since childhood with knowing her personal boundaries, losing friendships and very low self esteem which no matter what we have tried, can't seem to break. She has been in and out of therapy, etc. She refuses to open up to talk to anyone. Two years ago she suffered through a horrible depression with cutting and put me through hell. She has since gotten better but no matter what I try to do to help her self esteem and reframing all the negative into positives, she won't budge in trying to help herself. She has a boyfriend for close to a year now who absolutely adores her. In the beginning before she really showed her true self, she was sweet to him but now that their relationship has grown, she is horribly mean to him and she basically says that he takes it. He is a sensitive great kid and it makes me crazy to see this. She says he is boring and wants to dump him but can't because he will do something crazy. She continues on with this relationship and it is sad to watch because he dreams of spending his future with her. I try to explain how hurtful she is being and that if she really feels this way, she should be honest and at least caring about his feelings. She is rude and sarcastic to me, my husband her her brother. Not appreciative at all. I am not sure what to do at this point.
I just basically told her that I am done with helping her do anything until I see a change in her behavior but it is so very hard.
I would really love to hear some feedback from other moms.