Laurielee - posted on 03/01/2015 ( no moms have responded yet )
My 16-yr old daughter moved out almost a year ago (after a fight) and has been living with her dad. In the last couple of months she has been slowly coming back and staying with me for 5-6 days at a time and everything is great when she's here but after she goes back to her dad's it's hard to get her back here again. Back up... after our fight last spring (she's a "stuffer" and one day it all came tumbling out) I did a lot of soul-searching and realized all of the things I could have done differently with her and was very open to reconciling and building a new relationship with her. We took a good 6 months off, with very very little contact (which killed me, I love her so very much) and then slowly started to turn back towards each other. But she's convinced that life with Dad is easier, less stressful and moving back and forth every other week, (although he only lives 5 min. away) is too much of a hassle. When we're together we get along great, but she doesn't want to live with me and my heart is breaking. She won't tell me why she doesn't want to move back in, she's 100% conflict avoidant and if I ask too many times she puts up a wall and just plain 'ol won't respond. Then I have nothing of her. So I tend to walk on eggshells for fear of turning her away again. All I want is for her to move back in with me half time and have a "normal" relationship with her. What to do? Am I asking too much?