teenage daughters

Penn - posted on 03/31/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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my teenager informed me she has told her school how she is un happy at home coz all we do is argue and now she says the school r looking at getting her a social worker an maybe putting her in care however i dnt know how true this is as all she ever seems to do is lie so dnt know if she saying it to get a re
action or to hurt me as i grounded her for allowing her friend to have sex in her room

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Allie - posted on 04/02/2014

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I was a VERY stubborn 15 year old. I went through the "hate my life" stage and wore dark clothes and was what i thought was a rebel. Me and my mom went ROUNDS over everything..I was so angry, and blamed my mom for everything. It is a phase, but you need to talk to her. talk to the school and see what she has said to them. It took me and my mom a LONG time to get over me being a very angry person..but after i grew out of that stage and grew up, me and my mom are closer than ever now. I say she will grow out of it, but my mom stood her ground on it and fought me tooth and nail to make sure i didnt harm myself.

Charity - posted on 04/01/2014

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I'm sure it's hard being the parent of a teenage daughter or son for that matter.
I know when my sister was 15 she went to live with her friend and her friend's dad because mom wouldn't let her dress in Gothic clothes and wear a necklace with metal studs on it. It all sounds so silly now, but I remember the two of them going round and round with it.
She's all grown up now and she's a nurse, but my mom stood her ground and wouldn't let her dress like that, so she moved out. I don't blame mom for how she felt and I think my sister was just an independent girl. She dressed in her gothic clothes until she grew out of it and went on to college. Both my mom and sister are very stubborn.
Anyway, I can't tell you what to do, but I think you should stand your ground and not let her go out past 10 at night. She'll most likely grow out of this stage and be impressed that you stood your ground. After all, you're her mom and I know you just want her to be safe.

Penn - posted on 04/01/2014

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she does tend to tell me alot she knows she can tell me anything part of me thinks its just coz i wnt let her stay out till 10 at night think she trying to make me feel guilty so to speak as she often tells lies about silly stuff but then weeks down line will tell the truth or makes things up just to get a reaction of me

Michelle - posted on 04/01/2014

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They won't take her into care for you being a parent. Maybe you need to open up the lines of communication with her.
Sit down calmly with her and have a good heart to heart talk. Ask her what's going on at school and in her life.
Sometimes we are too busy trying to tell our children what to do instead of actually listening to them. I'm not saying that she is right and can do what she wants but sometime, if they know they are being listened to they are more willing to listen themselves.

Penn - posted on 04/01/2014

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i mean me and her argue a lot as she wants to do what she wants when she wants i am a single parent and we are very much a like so we clash a lot she thinks she should be able to stay out later than her curfew etc just simple things like that

Michelle - posted on 03/31/2014

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Do you argue all the time?
It can be very upsetting for any child to hear the adults arguing.
Have you had her see someone and see why she is upset? Maybe some counselling would help get to the bottom of why she lies and why she isn't happy.
Have you actually spoken to the school or just taken her word for it?
There are so many things you could be doing to help her.

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