Teenage daughters walk out of the house.

Saleha - posted on 02/15/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 2 teen daughters are walking out of the house whenever they don't get their way with me.

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Saleha - posted on 02/16/2014

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After my 14 years daughter left the house for the second time I broke down and cried like a child it was 9:00 pm and I had just spent the whole day driving back and forth to the place we just rented for the sake of my 17 years old cuz she wanted to go to another high school. I had to move stuff all by myself while everyone in school I can't wast money in moving company since I have a truck and I have 4 children that they compare their life with other kids all the time ( one time I read a paper that my 14 wrote saying that she want to give herself for adoption after she had a sleep over at her friend house). So that day I was extremely tired and was looking forward to get some rest then continue the next day so I always avoided calling for help from anyone since I have no one at all so I was crying so bad that the officer didn't understand how to spell my name and my doughter name . And also calling the police for my doughter made me feel defeated that I can't handle my own problems. I was so upset when she text from her friend phone. At that time my head was full of ugly things that might have happened to her and it was my first time I call the police on one my daughters I didn't want any thing to go in their record or damage thier name. When I received the text I was relieved but then I was so upset that her friend's mom didn't come and bring her to the house first and let me know she is ok. So I called the police again and told them we found her and she is ok. But later I found the police to my door they wanted to make sure everything is all right and then I asked the police what going to happen to my daughter she said that I can get help and it won't affect her record or her name but they can't do anything to my 17 years old as long as she is in a safe place. So the police officer waited and I called her friend and talked to her to let my doughter wait out of the house so I can come pick her up she refused to cuz my daughter was beside her telling her what to say and it was 11 pm and her parent in bed . I didn't want to do that but I drove to these good people house and the officer got my daughter out I waited in the car. It is just ugly. I feel so bad that these things happening to us I have no one to go to. I enjoyed my kids when they were young and thy will set for me to dress them and do their hair but now each all of them except the 11 years old think they can get the iron and burn their hair just cuz they already grown and know how to dress themselves.

Michelle - posted on 02/16/2014

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You seem to have let them get away with things as children and now it's biting you on the butt.
Why would you get your 12yo call her older sister to tell her that you have called the police? That's your job as a MOTHER!!!
You may need to think about sending them to their Father to actually get some control of them because they all walk over you.

Saleha - posted on 02/16/2014

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My 17 years old when I punish her she shouts and hit the wall make holes and call me names she break the window when she has fights with her sister and I can't break them apart before they hurt each other they are all bigger than me and I have arthritis any hit cause me bad pain. Then my other doughter she is 14 she walked out of the first time because I have a fight with her sister and she stayed in the cold for 3 hours in front of the house refusing to come in at all tell her dad lives 2 hours away came and talked to her. The 14 old walked another time last week because of a same situation then I called the police on her. She had went to a stranger house and called her friend and they came and got her. First she sent a text saying that she will spend the night with her then I made her 12 years old sister call her back and tell her that we already called the police. I drove to her friend house followed by the police car to get her and teach her that she can't leave the house like that it was the hardest thing to do. And now I don't know what else going to happen. I have 4 girls and it looks like they will do me the same way.

Ana - posted on 02/15/2014

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My question is the same, when they walk out, what do you do about it.

As I see it, they walk out because they know you won't do anything about it, or what you do decide to do doesn't have much of an effect on them...

Michelle - posted on 02/15/2014

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What have been their punishments and consequences up until now? What have they done when you enforced rules?

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