teenage masturbating

Rak - posted on 09/06/2016 ( 14 moms have responded )

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How can we know whether a teenage boy started masturbating? My son is 13, is it normal he start by this age?

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Sarah - posted on 09/07/2016

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Why is there any worry of your step-son "influencing" your son. Boys masturbate, so do girls and so do adults. Why is is looked upon as such a bad thing? Would you rather they sought out sexual satisfaction with a partner at 12? As long as it is private, they are not harming them-self and cleaning up after, what is the big concern? I just don't get it?

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Tammy - posted on 09/24/2016

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Its pretty much something that every teenager will do, especially boys. Why are you this concerned about if or when?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/07/2016

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Lisa, your "source" is not valid. OF COURSE a PhD of "divinity" is going to take that stand.

Got ANY REAL source? You know, a MEDICAL professional, not a religious one?

Here is a thought...every mom who has this much time on their hands that they obsess about their kid mastubating should find a volunteer activity. Think of how much assistance you could be when you aren't spending your time worrying about a perfectly normal act that men, women, boys, girls, and even some non human mammals participate in.

Victoria, your son will masturbate, without any influence from your step son.

Michelle - posted on 09/07/2016

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Victoria: Get used to the fact that your son will also masturbate. It's a completely normal activity.
Maybe you should try it, it can really enhance your sex life.

Victoria - posted on 09/07/2016

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You are not alone. My step son does it all the time. I have no control over it because my husband does not want me to interfere with his son. I just hope he doesn't influence my son, who is a year younger.

Sarah - posted on 09/07/2016

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I read the article and it is written by Dr. Mark Lasser, who is not a physician, but a PhD of divinity. There is not scientific evidence that backs this theory up. Medically, masturbation is considered safe and normal for males and females. Comparing masturbating to drugs or alcohol is not reasonable. That you develop a tolerance and would therefore need more stimulation, to do more acts, to add fantasy etc in order to achieve the same amount of pleasure? I understand the argument, I just don't see any evidence to back it up.

Lisa - posted on 09/07/2016

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I know there are differing opinions on this issue, but most professionals will acknowledge that there comes a point with masturbation, because of the chemicals released in the brain that a person needs more. I think this is called the "tolerance effect". http://bit.ly/2bTt1HK. It really is not scare tactics, but a desire to make right choices that don't leave lasting consequences, and to be able to guide our children.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/06/2016

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What is the obsession with masturbation lately?

To Rak: it is none of your business if your son is, or is not masturbating. His body, his privacy.

To Lisa: how in the world are you going to back up the statement "they can carry this into their marriage and it can become an obstacle to a healthy intimate relationship"???? Clinically, if you please, with actual sources cited.

Sex therapists recommend masturbation as a tool to enhance enjoyment of BOTH partners. My husband of 26 years mastubates. I masturbate. We do masturbate as foreplay.

Stop with the scare tactics

Dove - posted on 09/06/2016

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How can you know? It doesn't matter. It is your child's body and whether or not he touches himself is his business. Is it normal? Yes, absolutely.

Michelle - posted on 09/06/2016

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I agree with Jodi, how is masturbation harmful. Knowing your body and what you like/don't like is a good thing. Everyone is different and to be able to tell your partner what you like will only make your sex life better.

Jodi - posted on 09/06/2016

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Lisa, how is masturbation an obstacle to a healthy intimate relationship? If anything, the knowledge of how to self pleasure and the ability to do so can actually ENHANCE an intimate relationship.

Lisa - posted on 09/06/2016

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I can understand your desire as a mom to be involved, to teach to guide. First let me tell you, please step back and take a deep breath. This is not a life or death issue and your job as a mom is to not control but to be a source of wisdom. This is known as normative behavior in children. Touching feels good. simple. But as kids get older, they need to understand that this is designed to be part of a husband and wife relationship. It is not a good idea to make a habit out of it because it can be addictive. Eventually, they can carry this into their marriage and it can become an obstacle to a healthy intimate relationship. I know how difficult it is to talk to boys about this - I have 3 of my own. But it is necessary. Just be honest. Share information with him that is age appropriate. And don't ask a lot of questions, just give him wise information. Believe me he will remember it!

Jodi - posted on 09/06/2016

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I agree with Michelle. Why do you even want to know? It's none of your business and it really doesn't matter.

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