Teenage moods!!!!!

Becky - posted on 09/14/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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HELP!! I can not keep up with my teenage daughters moods. We have always been able to communicate until about 4 mts ago. Now I almost always dread time alone with her. And I am afraid it is rubbing off on my 10 year old. Any advise will be helpful, please.

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Vicki - posted on 09/16/2009

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Having lived through raising a daughter (she is now almost 19), I can relate. When my daughter was grouchy or cranky, I would ignore it. If it went on too long, I would come right out and ask her, "are you mad at me? Is it something I DID that made you grouchy? Because if it ISNT me, then PLEASE stop taking your mood out on me." At that point she would tell me why she is grouchy (98% it had NOTHING to do with me) which wouldn't stop the grouchiness all of the time but at least it wasn't directed at me and I wouldn't feel guilty that I did or didn't do something wrong.I hope this helps you. It is a tiring job raising girls.

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Hi Becky, I have two teenage daughters. They having been going through this the same as your daughters. I found this book "Princess Bitchface Syndrome". This book has made me realise that my daughters do not need psychiatric help. My eldest is eighteen and next one down is sixteen now. I am still living with their mood swings, but coping with it.

Lori - posted on 09/16/2009

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i have 16 yr old and 12 yr old daughters. I know what you mean.I find that when she's in a mood like that to say nothing. No matter what you say it will be wrong so I just look at her and wait until she's finished and I nod. If she gets nasty I tell her calmly that her comments weren't necessary and that usually stops her rant. It has started to rub off on the 12 yr old and I tell her the same. That she can talk without the unnecessary comments or rudeness. I find that if you yell at them they yell right back, but if you speak very calmly they see that it didn't get a rise out of you and they calm right down.

hang in there! they'll be 18 soon.

Stacy - posted on 09/16/2009

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I have 2 teenage daughter and a teenaged son. Each of them have mood swings. I guess it started around 11 or 12. But trust me it's all part of being a teenager. They think they know everything and we know nothing. Like we were never teens. Just try to be calm and listen when she needs you. She'll cool down and let you know when she need to talk or get your advise. My oldest is now 18 and trust me it is getting better and she is realizing that Mom is pretty smart about things sometimes. Good luck and God bless!!

Kathleen - posted on 09/16/2009

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i have 3 girls aged 16,14,and 12. not sure how old your daughter is but it does get better if you set rules even on how they need to act in your family.

To get respect,you must give respect. also not to get to personel, but has she had he period yet. is there one week worst then others, that bad week is when she may get if she has not gotten it yet. once it comes it does get better. Tell her what you want from her while she is living in this house and what the consquence will be if she does not go by them and then just walk away. do not let her push you into a back and forth conversion because there is nothing to talk about unless she wants to talk about her behavior.

Sharon - posted on 09/14/2009

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HELLO!! I am with you!



My son is 14 and omg driving me nuts. We've got it worked that when he feels "bitchy" he takes his moods elsewhere. He cannot sit in the livingroom and make snide remarks to his younger brother & sister. He doesn't do it with me any more.



He can go blow up his eardrums with his MP3 player but we also agreed no angry music when he is already angry. He sees that it just makes him feel angrier. Thank god. Or he can sit quietly, or read a book (not his favorite activities) or play his electric guitar, or trumpet. He can go for a bike ride and wear himself out practicing his jumps. He can go jogging. anything but he can't sit here and be in a foul mood and take it out on the rest of us.



Help her find some coping mechanisms, keep a list in your purse, you'll lose track.



good luck!

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