Teenage son is 16

Sharona - posted on 02/03/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )




Please help I have a 16 1/2 year old son who is failing school and smoking pot daily and has a bad temper where he throws chairs and punches holes in the wall. He is also being very disrespectful to his younger sister who is 15. Should I send him to his dad or am I quiting on him? Please help!


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Michelle - posted on 02/05/2016




How is he getting the drugs?
Have you got him in counseling?
What are the consequences for his behaviour?

Amaze - posted on 02/04/2016




You are not alone, Sharona! Raising teens is always complicated and messy. If your son refuses to cooperate, it may be best to seek professional counselor’s assistance.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/03/2016




What ARE the consequences for inappropriate behaviour in your home?

Raye - posted on 02/03/2016




You need to have firm and consistent consequences for when he breaks the rules. If he's destroying your property, you might ask the police to just come out and have a talk with him about what could happen if he doesn't control his anger. If he's actually hitting you or his sister, you can call the police for domestic violence, but some areas will force you to press charges and he could be arrested.

Make it hard for him to get the drugs, and remove privileges until he regains trust. Restrict him from going out with friends, keep an eye on him at home, get teachers involved in monitoring him at school, and talk to his friends parents about their bad influence on your kid. You can also buy at-home drug tests to see if he continues to smoke pot.

If you really can't control him, you can have a discussion with the father to see if he can live there (dad may not want to put up with him either). If dad agrees, that may be better than jail.

Tina - posted on 02/03/2016




I went through this very same thing with my son, whom is going to be 18 in two months. I thought he would grow out of it, but what seemed to have changed things is that he got arrested and was put on probation. That really changed his way, and I no longer felt alone with his bad ways and attitude. He was put in an outpatient program for drug use and anger. It really helped. You have the power to get him help, but the clock is ticking, because at 18 there isn't much you can do, but consistently continue to show love to him.

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