Teenage Son with High Heels Fetish?

Sarah - posted on 09/24/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )

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As you can see, this is my first post and one which I didn't want to write but I just need some advice from real people out there - simple searches on the internet seem to suggest I shouldn't be worried but i would like to know if anyone out there has experienced the same thing I am experiencing.



Backround: I'm a 36 year old single mother and my son is 18. As you can see, I had him at a young age and his father didn't wan't anything to do with him. I raised him the best way I could and I feel like I did a good job. Apart from the typical "boys will be boys" behaviour throughout his early teens, he has turned out well, does well in school, involved in sports etc. Even though he hasn't really had a stable father figure around. There was an incident with pot but it was over quickly and it didnt appear to be a big deal.



Situation: A few months back, I came home from work late and as ususal, I kicked my heels off and went straight to bed knowing that my son was probably already asleep (it was 11pm) or playing on the ex-box. I came down 10 minutes later for some water and I stopped at the bottom of the stairs as I saw him in the lounge. I saw my son with my high heeled shoes. He was sniffing and licking the insides of the high heeled stiletto shoes I had worn that day and was obvioulsy masturbating. I was so shocked and ashamed and I just quietly went back upstairs still in shocked. I just didn't know what to say.



I never mentioned anything the next day and haven't brought it up since. He didn't know I was there seeing him through the gap in the door. Since that time, I have noticed (I'm sure it happned before but I never noticed) that he has been in my wardrobe and has intefered with my other pairs of high heeled shoes as they obvioulsy have been touched or moved around. This has been a regular occurence and I notice out of the corner of my eyes that if I'm wearing high heels, he will catch a glimse of them and stare whilst Im wearing them.



I just do not know what to think. I have so many many things going around in my mind and I just do not know who or what to turn to. Do I approach him and ask him why he does this? Shall I buy him a a pair of his own high heels? Do I shout at him and tell him to stop and deny him access to my high heels? I just do not know what to do. Am I worrying over nothing??



I appreicate any honest advice you can give me. Have any of you mothers out there expereinced this? I know this is a delicate subject and please feel free to message me in private (does this site have that facility??) if you want to mention anything.

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Kevin - posted on 10/23/2012

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Sarah,

It is very obvious that your son has a foot fetish, and finds your feet attractive. The fact that he was sexually aroused while smelling them points to this fact. He is not gay, nor is he a cross-dresser. He has a foot fetish and your shoes are available to him. I too have a foot fetish and have been smelling female feet and shoes for as long as I can recall. And yes I smelled my mom's too. He needs to find a girlfriend to perk his interests, when he does he will use your pumps less and less. I was a nylon lover, any women wearing pumps and pantyhose always got my attention. I found a girl that enjoyed my foot fetish, I bought her hundreds of shoes, and giving thousands of foot massages. Be patient. Don't ridicule, or make a big deal about. My mom never did and I turned out OK. And besides, maybe your feet are just adorable and smell wonderful.

Lacye - posted on 10/23/2012

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First thing I would do is throw away all of my heels. They may not be exactly sanitary anymore.



Second, if you don't want to confront him head on, do like some of the others said and buy him his own with a note saying you are ok with his fetish but your heels are off limits.

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Sarah - posted on 12/13/2012

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Sydnee, sadly as you can see I posted this twice on two different forums that I didn't mean to do- I was a novice and I wasn't exactly thinking straight.

I have replied to yours and Jennifer's replied on the single moms forum where this post is also posted.

You mentioned here, just like the other thread, about the height of my heels. Do you think it has some significance? I'm really nterested in your thinking or opinions

Sarah

Sydnee - posted on 12/05/2012

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How has this turned out? How high a heels do you wear? Do you find he is more interested in certain heels?

Sarah - posted on 10/31/2012

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Kevin,



Whilst I'm flattered by what you may think about the appearance of my feet, I can assure you that it doesn't really make me feel much better right now. It isn't just a foot fetish he has, as I mentioned I am more aware now of him looking down at my high heels when I wear them and I see how he acts when he sees other women wear them. He has a big high heel fetish and my concern is why mine and what he does with them.

Sarah - posted on 10/31/2012

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Kevin,



Whilst I'm flattered by what you may think about the appearance of my feet, I can assure you that it doesn't really make me feel much better right now. It isn't just a foot fetish he has, as I mentioned I am more aware now of him looking down at my high heels when I wear them and I see how he acts when he sees other women wear them. He has a big high heel fetish and my concern is why mine and what he does with them.

Holly - posted on 10/23/2012

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wow, i can honestly say i feel bad reading this, thinking about how you must feel, violated and worried that he is turned on by YOUR shoes... i would try to keep your shoes locked up. and try to get your son a girlfriend to turn his interest onto another girl.

Firebird - posted on 09/24/2012

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Considering what he's doing with your high heels, completely ignoring this situation might not be entirely.... sanitary. There is no way you can address this issue without causing your son immense embarrassment, but you can minimize it by not addressing him directly. I would just buy him his own nice stilettos, leave them on his bed with a note "Love Mom". And never speak of it again. lol I'm sure he's smart enough to take a hint that you get it, it's ok, but you don't want him using your shoes.

S. - posted on 09/24/2012

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Bless you my head would be a bit of a mess too, I think I would try and forget it and lock away my shoes and never ever mention it. It sounds like a harmless fetish too. Sorry I can't be more help.

Sarah - posted on 09/24/2012

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Another thing that is goign around my head is he is not wearing the heels. So I don't think he is cross dressing and he isnt gay. Is it a harmless fetish or something much more? Also as a single mom, are their any other single moms out there that have noticed some type of behaviour like this in their sons? Gosh I'm all over the place.

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