Teenager's with a attitude

Debbie - posted on 01/12/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My daughter at the age of 15 is out of control with her attitude! She has no problem getting in my husbands (her step-dad) face telling him off! Last night was awful! She has a boyfriend who is 18 years old and my husband doesn't like it. I've tried to tell him not to act out on how he feels because it makes things worse. I've tried to except the relationship and keep a close eye on them. But, I'm at a lose with them both....I'm to the point where they both are driving me crazy!

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Dove - posted on 01/12/2015

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It is likely that forbidding this relationship at this point (and given the issues w/ her attitude) will push her to be secretive and see him anyway. That's not to say you should still allow it... but just be aware that letting these things go on and then forbidding them at 15 is likely to make things worse.

Perhaps some family counseling would be in all of your best interests at this point... a 3rd party telling her this isn't OK and being your 'sounding board' and 'accountability back up' may work better.

There is a reason (likely, at least) that she is having such an attitude issue and finding the source of that and working together as a family would be ideal... if possible.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/12/2015

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Ditto Dove. You've already allowed the relationship, so in reality, you backtracking isn't going to work.

Sarah - posted on 01/12/2015

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Tell her she is not allowed to see this person as he is simply too old for her. Don't feel ashamed, you cannot change what has already happened. You can move forward with a new plan.

Sarah - posted on 01/12/2015

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I agree, 15 yo girls should not be in exclusive relationships, especially with an adult. You do realize that, if they are sexually active, he is committing a crime.
As a parent you should not feel like you have to sensor yourself to prevent your child from getting angry. Parenting from fear will not get you anywhere. If her step-dad has been in her life for a long time, and has always frank with your daughter, why should he stop now? I presume you both speak to your daughter rationally, and don't provoke her by name calling or yelling. How do you feel about her dating an adult? Do you have an open dialog with your daughter about self worth, sex, safety and relationships?

Dove - posted on 01/12/2015

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I think I'd be letting her know that she's not acting mature enough for a boyfriend. If she can't be mature and respectful then she doesn't need to have any of the privileges she currently has. That's assuming that you are both treating HER w/ respect as well.

As for the whole boyfriend thing... I would not be OK w/ my 15 year old having an any aged boyfriend.... definitely not one that is 18.

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Sarah - posted on 01/12/2015

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I would be inclined to agree, however if a crime is being committed, mom is obligated to step in.

Debbie - posted on 01/12/2015

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I feel really ashamed now! I understand but just don't know how to get her out of this relationship???

Debbie - posted on 01/12/2015

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I've told her this many times that she is not mature enough for a boyfriend but she see's no wrong in the age difference....to her it's just a number. Unfortunately, I should have stopped this a long time ago. But, she is to the point of she is in love and nothing I say or do gets thru her head.

It is causing me many problems with my husband and oldest daughter.

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