teenagers / dating

Wilma - posted on 02/18/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I have a 14 year old and she wants to "date" I use the term loosely because kids dont really date like we used to. I have the following fears:
1) she will get pressured into doing things even though she knows she shouldnt
2) kids may spread rumors about her at school
I am a single working mom - no father in the picture and I cannot stay home to watch her. She knows no one is allowed in the house when I am not home and she follows that mostly because I have done "drive upons" its where I randomly show up at home at any given time then go back to work.
How worried should I be if they are hanging out at the library or pizza place and if other kids are there?
We have talked about sex - we are pretty open and I do trust her but at the end of the day she IS a teenager and they are so impossible anyway so sometimes I feel like I am standing at the brick wall just banging my head.
Any other moms in my spot?

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Leanne - posted on 02/18/2013

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If she's never done anything to prove you can't trust her then I would tell her you trust her, warn her not to mess that up, and then try and relax. Keep talking to her and if she knows that she can come to you and trust you and your opinions then you will stay a major influence in her life which is all you can hope for.

I also try and encourage my kids to have their friends here when I'm around. I can then hear what's going on and I know what they're up to. That helps me from imagining all sorts of other crazy tings!

Good Luck!

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