Valerie - posted on 01/05/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have a 17 yr old boy, 18 yr ol girl, 19 yr ol dil, and 22 year old son. A year and a half ago I learn their dad was abusing our daughter and put him out and he is now in an institution. I had been a stay at home mom and wife for 23 years. Since then, all have moved out except 17 yr old boy. 18 yr old girl comes home holidays and one weekend a month from Job Corp. I have recently been banned from my 22 yr olds and his wife's life being called a deadbeat mom because I could not afford fancy gifts for Christmas. The others disrespect me, do no chores without tantrums, and destroy my property. 17 yr old is on probation because he punched his sister in the face and I don't tolerate that. He has also been to juvy because when I catch him destroying my things I call the cops. He was put out of public school and is getting his GED at night but doesn't try very hard. I have been taking him out to do applications but he makes sure the phone is where it can't be read. Over Christmas break these 2 ate more than $400 worth of food. Almost caused me to have an accident while driving down the highway because they got into a physical fight over my dd not wanting to sit where she was. We have a truck and we were all in front. I have turned off the cable and internet when chores are not done. They get done for a day or two and I turn them back on and then no more chores. They stay up all night downing all the food they can get their hands on. I refused to buy food for a month once and although they got concerned, they did not change or cut back. Their bathroom is a mess. Broken faucet handle and tub handle, broken light switch, etc. from tantrums. I am tired of fighting. When is enough enough?