Teenages

Sandra - posted on 10/04/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )

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The best way to handle the "everyone has it" can I please have too. It varies an example is the latest cell phone...

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/04/2016

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Oh, I also did the "when you can pay for it" thing

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/04/2016

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I used the same lines as well, but didn't have to often, as we taught our sons to not be materialistic.

LOL I think I did once say "if everyone jumped off a cliff, would you want to as well?", Which got the "well duh, mom" look from them, but they got my point...

Sarah - posted on 10/04/2016

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I use those same lines as well. But there are some cases where I say if you want it then you pay for it. Higher price jeans, certain pair of shoes, etc. I will spend a certain amount if they want something that is higher price they can use the amount I would pay plus add their own money to get the higher price item. You could also apply this to the cell phone situation. You pay a certain amount....if the phone or the plan cost more then they are in charge of that difference. One thing to judge with that though is how are they with their money.....will they have the amount each month? If you know that will be an issue then don't go there and just leave the answer at "no". If they are pretty responsible and this could be something they could do then it can be an option (if you want it to be). One good thing with doing that is it can help them learn money management and how to plan for monthly bills.

Ev - posted on 10/04/2016

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I agree with the other two...I got the lines "I am not everyone's mom" or "you are not everyone else." We also knew if we asked more than once we would be in trouble. I used to just tell my kids what they could expect and that was the end of the conversation. When they both each got to age 15, I did start to talk to them as an adult but they still knew my decisions were final.

Michelle - posted on 10/04/2016

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I use the same as Jodi.
As well as: "If everyone jumped off a cliff would you have to as well?"
Honestly, your children should have learned that when you say no you mean it well before they are teens.
My teen understands that when I say no I mean it, he will sometimes ask twice but he knows not to push it more than that. That's where negotiations come in though. They can work for it if they want it that badly.

Jodi - posted on 10/04/2016

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"you aren't everyone". "I'm not everyone's mother".
You don't give a kid things because everyone else has it. He needs to have better reasoning for it than that. Just tell him no, this is not a reason to get one.

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