tell me what is about little girls and there not so developed attitudes at age 8

Niya - posted on 11/16/2008 ( 10 moms have responded )

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you know how you ask your daughter to do something and she's not ready,so she wants to give attitude."i'm not ready yet,or i dont' want to". DRIVES ME CRAZY!

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Jennifer - posted on 11/12/2011

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I have the same problem with my 6 yr old daughter. She is so respectful with other ppl and will do anything for anyone. But when I ask her to please help me around the house or with anything I might be doing she gets attitude or pretends not to hear me at all. I did get rid of the tv in april this year and it did help wonders. I just hooked up the tv when school started so I know of school closing and weather for the week so I can be prepared in the winter months. I always spend time with her and do things she wants to do or plan activities to do together, sometimes its a go and sometimes she isn't interested at all. I was putting her in her room when she would say "wait a minute, No I don't want to, I didn't hear you (when I told her 3+ times), or the worst FINE!!! when I take away from her what she was doing. I was putting her in her bedroom and she would cry and stomp up the stairs, then I was peeking in and she was playing with her stuff animals and then I asked her why she was up in her room and she said I don't know I'm playing. I took her downstairs where I could watch her and put her in the corner facing the wall, set the timer, and would continue doing what I was working on in the same room but ignoring her and if she started saying anything to me even sorry I would quietly go and start the timer over. I was putting it on 6 minutes for her age. When she was quiet and calm the whole 6 minutes I would get down to her level, eye to eye, then I would ask her why she was in the corner, why she did what she did, if she thought that was respectful, and if she would like it if I treated her that way when she wanted me to do something for her or with her. She is starting to get the point, I did just start doing this about a month ago and it is getting much better.

Susie - posted on 08/09/2010

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So many people say it..Girls have so much more attitude,than boys,when they are young.My son,is the sweetest,most delightful angel and his little sister,is such a minx.Maybe it is just preparing the Female sex,for life.Possibly,that is why girls have so much "attitude".Lets face it,life still favours Men,in so many ways.Women are finding equality and our girls,are getting more willfull! Look out fellas of the future!!

Danielle - posted on 08/09/2010

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yeah! i ask my 7 year old to turn down the tv and she practically yells.."Im trying!" ive been immediately snipping back with u have no need or right to yell and better drop the attitude or the tv will just go off.." its been really bad this summer..i'm thinking its just a bored summer plus they think they are getting to be "big"kids and know alot.

Elizabeth - posted on 11/18/2008

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All I can say is I don't recall being permitted to behave that way when I was 8 (or any age for that matter) My parents demanded I treat them with respect and do what I was told. Her behavior indicates a lack of respect and if you do not get it under control now you will have hell to pay during the teenage years. You have to find her "currency." I am not suggesting you spank her, just find what she wants or likes most and take it away until she learns to treat you with respect. It is ok to teach her to question authority in the proper setting and in the appropriate way without being disrespectful.

Melissa - posted on 11/17/2008

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I am no expert...but my oldest is 7. When she strats school up each year, I see totally new behaviors...and when I am at work, she watches tv when with ym inlaws. Here is the best advice I cna give...and this stems from having a younger sister who is growing up in this new generation of girls who think the world owes them something! ....

Nip it in the bud now. no one did for my younger sister and new she is quite the "snotty-prima". Explain, every time you hear her speaking ina way that is unacceptable or making facial gestures that are also unnacceptable, explain...we dot act like this in our house/family. Have her look in the mirror when making these faces.

Also, if she is watching those shows on TV: Miley, zack & cody, And all those other shows, they are really meant for children ages 11 and older. our younger girls are so very impressionable, it is our jobs as mothers to demonstrate proper behavior. I have only recently started to bad these television shows...I had to have my inlaws actually watch them, and now they totally agree that these shows are not appropriate for out growing girls.

Sarah - posted on 11/17/2008

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I swear my 8 year old is already going through puberty. The way she can be sweet and helpful one moment and a dragon the next is a little disturbing! It makes me wonder how I was to my mom when I was this age. . . Maybe I'm getting payback!

Abby - posted on 11/16/2008

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I have an 8 year old, and it scares me to death. I get the same attitude. I wonder what she will be like when she's 15!! MIne always says, "in a minute." Makes me crazy!

Corrin - posted on 11/16/2008

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My little princess can have quite the attitude, not to mention the fierce dirty looks i get. It's a daily occurance now, 8 going on 14..

Vinetta - posted on 11/16/2008

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Wish I knew I have the princes and one princess your exact daughters age. She's the exact same way!! Listen to this and when you are telling a story you think is cute she says .." you're always talking about me"! And them stomps off ... Ugh! She better get a grip quick. Then sometimes shes a complete angel.

Nicki - posted on 11/16/2008

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girls are lovely, i have two sons and a daughter and i would have a girl any day! my sons are 7 and 4 and are both like stroppy teens, my girl has been lovely from day one

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