telling kids about deceased siblings

Candise - posted on 04/02/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )




I'm torn between the two and I don't know what to do. I had a daughter who passed away 1 day after birth. A year later I had another daughter. Now she is 3 and she sees pictures of her sister on my computer and I don't know how to explain it to her. She has already learned it is her sister but when she asks questions about where she is and why she don't see her I dodge the questions. She almost 4 now and dodging is getting harder. We also have a 4 month old now. Should we tell them about her or will it cause unnessacary grief? We go see her on her birthday or rather her grave and until now our daughter wasnt old enough to understand.


Gena - posted on 04/03/2015




First of all i am sorryfor your loss. I am in a different situation then yours but maybe i can help. My youngest sister passed away when she was ten yrs old. She had a tumor. I now have a 4yr old son and he sees the pictures of my sister and knows she is his Aunty. He has asked me several times where Aunty Rebecca is and why we cant go on holiday to her. I explained to him that Aunty is in heaven and we cant see her,but one day we will. I told him that she is by the angels and its a wonderful place there. I also explained that she was very sick and now she has no more pain.
I found a book for children that explains why some people die and it helped me alot to sit down with him and go through the book. Maybe you could find a childrens book to help them understand it better?

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