Michelle - posted on 04/28/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )
I have been contemplating telling my 7 year old girl the real reason why her father and I are not together. We have not been together since she was very young (before 1 years old) because he was very abusive. I ended up trying to get back togther with him for a couple months when she was 3 but he turned abusive again (in front of her) and I ended it for good. She is now 7 and her father hasn't really been in the picture except ocassional visits when she is at his parents house, but nothing that he has actually initiated. I finally made it so that he could not see her at all because I felt that it was not right to have him in and out, so since I have sole custody I told him and his parents that he is not allowed to see her. She has been asking me why she can't see her father and I have, in the past, been telling her that we just didn't get along, but she is a VERY smart girl and I feel like that isn't enough for her. I contemplated telling her that her father was not a very good person to me but I am not sure if it's appropriate for her age or what I should even tell her. I am currently seeing someone who has basically been her father figure for the last couple years and she considers him a "dad" basically (without calling him that), so she knows what a good relationship is. I am just not sure how to go about telling my little girl that her father is a bad person! (although, not in those direct words I suppose.) Any input would help!! I am at such a loss....