Telling my 8 year old daughter that my boyfriend isn't her biological father. Please help!

Ana - posted on 04/10/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )

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I have two daughters Jas who is 8 and Jay who is 5 and daughter of my current relationship. I have been w Jays father since jasmine was 2, right around the time her biological father decided not to be part of her life. Jas at one point knew my boyfriend wasn't her father and didn't call him dad until age 3 when her sister my daughter was born. My boyfriend has been here for her although sadly at times has treated her different Han our daughter,which I put a stop to. I know he loves and cares for her. We are currently living in his parents (my in laws) back house. I have had issues in the past with his mother (my mother in law) treating my daughter different because she's not her biological granddaughter. Well since she and I have had a big fall out she now treats my daughter more different than ever, to the point of being mean. My boyfriend spoke to his mother and she admit it and said shed change. My boyfriend has two younger sisters ages 13 and 10. The 10 year old has been acting mean towards my daughter lately and just yesterday our neighbor whose 9 years old was playing here with my daughters and blurred out that my boyfriends 10 year old sister made a comment such as
"I don't know why I have to be nice to Jas if she isn't even my real niece" I want to move out ASAP, and plan to my dauber just looked confused and said nothing. I have a feeling deep down she knows my boyfriend isn't her father but I was never sure. Now more than ever I feel I need to explain the truth to her and although its wrongmaybe she'll realize why these people treat her different. Her biological father was my H.S sweetheart we were together for 4 years once we graduated at age 18 and he found out I was pregnant he took off and I didn't hear from him until Jas was 6 months, he was in and out of her life for 2 years then I found out although he claimed to want to work things out between us he lied and was having a baby w another woman. I left him alone, started seeing my current boyfriend then when I found out I was pregnant and told him he stopped coming around to see her. A year later in 2008 I received a voicemail from him saying he wants to give his rights up for our daughter who was 3 then. I never contacted him again. His 2 sisters and brothers have been in my daughters life but she hasn't seen or heard of him since she was 2, about 6 years now. I know he lives about 30 min away, married the woman he was with at the time who I met and hated me and now has two kids with her. I don't know how to or where to start to tell my daughter the truth... I don't want to hurt her anymore. Please help, any tips, advice will be helpful.
Tank you!

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