Telling my children about their donor "father"

Vanessa - posted on 03/30/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I am a lesbian. Have two beautiful 2 and a halve year olds. Have a partner who is great but does not play a "double-mommy" role. They have started asking questions of whether they have a father and where is he... I'd like to give them information on the ethnic origin of the donor, etc so they know something about their roots but don't know the best way to do it or how to call "him"... :-S

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Valentines - posted on 10/29/2016

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I know this was posted in 2015. But you can begin slowly telling your kids about how different ways baby's are born. And the types of re lat ion ships people have. The earlier the better

Raye - posted on 03/30/2015

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Look up on Amazon books on "different families" or "blended families". There are some that touch on your situation and how to talk to kids (or read the book to them).

2-3 y/o is a little young to get too detailed in talking to them about their origins. I would just say something like: Me and (partner) loved each other so much we wanted to share that love with children. So there was a wonderful man that helped us have babies, but he is not your "daddy". Some families don't have both a mommy and daddy. Some only have one parent, either their mommy or their daddy, but not both. Some have two mommies. Some have two daddies. Some kids live with their grandparents. Some have step parents. There are a lot of different types of families.

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