Temper

Christina - posted on 01/17/2015 ( 13 moms have responded )

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the other night my daughter threw a bad tantrum kicks me in the face tells me no yeils and stomp how can i get her to stop this when she dont get her way?

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Raye - posted on 01/19/2015

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I agree with these ladies. Try to stay calm. Don't worry what others think. It's tempting to want to "fix" a tantrum and a natural desire to want your child to stop acting out. But sometimes, a child simply needs space. If talking doesn't work and you can't get them to focus on something else (distraction), try telling your child that you love her and that you're there if she needs you, but that you're going to give her some space now. She can come see you when she's all done and can behave herself.

Sarah - posted on 01/17/2015

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The neighbors will understand. If you do not feed into her behavior and just carry on paying no attention to her, she will quit eventually. It may take awhile because you have taught her that if she scream for an hour, you will eventually pay attention to her. Let her scream herself to sleep if you have too. Stop worrying about the neighbors. If they confront you or call the cops, be honest. Your toddler is having a tantrum and you cannot force her to stop. Anyone that is a parent will understand.

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Meagan - posted on 01/20/2015

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Thanm you! Im having the same problem with my son that will be 3 in april. I give into the tantrums aswell, coz of neighbors. And coz where i come from kids shouldnt b left to cry. Parents r jus suppose to give in and stop the tantrum. Its frowned upon here in cape town,south africa. Hubby and i can handle yhe screams and tantrums, we can easily carry on with a convo, but then the neighbors or landlord would come out. Thanx once again for the advice.

Jodi - posted on 01/17/2015

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And right there is your problem. You are responding because of your circumstances and unfortunately, continuing the problem.

Christina - posted on 01/17/2015

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we have really thin walls so if i can hear neighbors for sure they can hear her

Jodi - posted on 01/17/2015

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So there is her pay off. Why can't you continue to ignore? How long are you ignoring for?

Jodi - posted on 01/17/2015

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Children act in a certain way because they get a pay off. Are you responding to the tantrums or ignoring them?

Jodi - posted on 01/17/2015

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Evelyn gives some good advice. Are you ignoring the tantrums or are you responding to them? Are you using spanking as punishment? if so, you need to stop because you are teaching her to hit.

Christina - posted on 01/17/2015

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she is 3 years old....and she tells us no and hits us.... her screaming is so bad that im scared some one will call the cops one day so i just give in to what she wants

Ev - posted on 01/17/2015

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How old is the child? If you are at home, try ignoring her fits. If out in public then leave and take her home. You have to be consistent with this and not just threaten things. It has to be followed through with.

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