terrible twos

Ali - posted on 04/01/2012 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Ok.. my son is 18 months but i swear terrible twos is setting in very well. He is very smart but just refuses to listen. He understands everything you say and sometimes will mock you. But when my husband or myself try to tell him to do something or not to do something he laughs or just ignores us. Its very bothersome and nerve wrecking. I have tried time out and that just doesnt seem to help at all he wiggles and laughs the whole time like he isnt phased by it. We have tried to take his toys away that doesnt phase him he will find something to play with. What can I do that will work? Yes he is my first so i am new at motherhood and my nerves are about gone. PLEASE help me before i go bald from pulling my hair out.

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Ali - posted on 04/01/2012

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He doesnt do well with other children to be honest with you. Me and some of my co-workers that have children around the same age went to a fun house and he didnt take any part in the children. He was like a outcast. But I also think he has aspergers syndrome like his older half brother does. There is alot of things he is doing that his brother did when he was little. I take him to a specialist next week to see what we can find out. So for the time being i am just crossing my fingers and praying everything works out. I just want whats best for him. Thanks for your input.

Ali - posted on 04/01/2012

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LOL. see we try that sometimes it works and others it doesnt or i will open the door and just tell him im leaving and he runs as fast as his little legs can go to me. But other days it doesnt phase him. I have also noticed if he doesnt go anywhere for like 2-3 days he starts to get worse. As soon as we go some where he calms right down and listens to everything. I just think where i am around him alot since i am a traveling CNA im not always gone from our home. When he realizes i am ignoring him and comes up to me i just tell him he is a bad boy and go play cause i dont want to love on him and him think its ok.

Katherine - posted on 04/01/2012

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Both of my daughters did the same thing at that age. I would just pick them up and take them. If I had to chase, I wouldn't. I would ignore and then when they got curious as to why I was ignoring them, I'd snatch them up lol and take them.

Ali - posted on 04/01/2012

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Well I ask him to clean up and we have a clean up song he listens and helps pick up his toys. He will listen to my husband and myself better when its just us but when family comes over its like he has to show off. He is already center of attention but it seems not to be good enough for him at times lol. When I took a early childhood development class timeout is a min per year of the child. I have tried different things that i have learned threw class but nothing seems to stick. I dont expect him to follow commands like his is middle school but simple things as 'come here so we can go bye byes' he looks laughs and takes off the other way or ' come out of the kitchen' he just laughs and goes in there, I wouldnt get so upset if he didnt know what i am saying but i know he does cause there is times that he does actually listen.

Katherine - posted on 04/01/2012

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Relax. He's only 18 months. Just ignore his behavior. Getting mad only reinforces it. If you think about it a time out is only 18 seconds. Not very effective. And yes, sometimes the terrible two's DO start early. To me he sounds like a typical 18 month old.



My 6 year old doesn't listen STILL. She is flaky sometimes though. And to expect an 18 month old to actually listen isn't really realistic. If you want him to do something, don't say a word, take his hand and lead him to where you want him to go. Like picking up a toy he's thrown. Non-reaction means a lot more than reaction. Try not to say "No" and, "Don't" because he will do the opposite.



Trying to think of some more examples......what else does he do?

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