Terrible twos

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Michelle - posted on 01/02/2015

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Yes it is normal behaviour. Toddlers have very little control over their lives so they find the little things they think they can control.
Giving her a choice of 2 things is the best. It gives her some control but you have given her the 2 things that you want.
In regards to the food, don't force the issue, leave it for her to go back to when she wants. If it's dinner that she's not eating let her know that she either eats it now or it's bath and bed, nothing else to eat. Going to bed a couple of times without food isn't going to harm her but she will soon realize that you mean what you say.
Consistancy is the key in dealing with toddlers as it sets up the discipline for the rest of their childhood. You have to make sure that if you give her a consequnce that you follow through.

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Michele - posted on 01/02/2015

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My 2 year old girl, Charlotte is mostly refusing to do everyday things like getting dressed, going to the potty even though she's told me that she needs to go, asking for food then refusing it once prepared, refusing get into the car when it's time to go. Sometimes it results in a tantrum but not always. There is no pattern to these behaviors, it's not when she's necessarily tired or hungry, this can occur at any time. I know his is age appropriate but I want to find a peaceful and loving way to deal with it so that we aren't at odds. She is so fun and happy and I enjoy her so much but this new behavior has become so challenging at times.

So far the best strategy has been to give her one of 2 choices, for example;

I will say, "Charlotte, You can climb into your car seat or mommy will help you."
Or, "you can choose your shirt or mommy will choose it."

This does not always work but it's the only thing that has worked at all. Any advice is welcome and appreciated.

Thanks!
Michele

Michelle - posted on 01/02/2015

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What have you done so far?
How are they defiant?
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