Joan - posted on 08/14/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
I have always been concerned about texting. I feel that it is a dangerous thing when we no longer know who our children are communicating with. I think we are loosing our kids by allowing them so much freedom to do it, just because they can and others are able to. I parent differently and want to have my eyes wide open. I care too much to set my daughter free because her peers appear to have it all going on. I prefer my daughters friends to call throught the home phone so that I am aware of whom she is associating with. I feel that if this is the rule, she would have fewer of the so called friends who are up to no good calling her. The ones that don't want to talk to me or meet me are the ones that have to go. I need to trust these kids too. I have found that things are going on that would never happen if our kids were having a vocal communication.
I believe a certain amount of privacy is important, but then there is a limit. Texting promotes sneaking and inappropriate language that we as parents don't know about. I have found some of the language abusive and don't want any part of this for myself or my daughter. If we allow this to continue it will continue. This makes us as parents outsiders. When kids have to be so secretive and sneaking around, this means they probably shouldn't be doing it in the first place. My daughter started out pretty innocently and before I knew it, all kinds of things were filtering in and she was in over her head. I did not purchase this phone that has the net an all kinds of things that a 14-year-old simply does not need, it was a gift that made me nervous from the get-go. I am really mad at myself because I let others talke me into letting her keep it, they said "well this is how kids are doing it today" I said just because it is on the shelf you don't need to buy it. I don't believe for a minute that just because everyone seems to be doing it this way, that it the right way. Our society is a mess and we keep promoting it by allowing our kids to be taken in by absolutely everything. The kids feel that if it is their privacy right then I say all in due time. Parents need to get more involved by staying involved instead of trying to undo the potential problems the kids are getting themselves intl.