The father and his girlfriend

Ashley - posted on 09/09/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )




So I left him after all of the neglect And disrespect and ultimatums...blah blah blah we both agreed to try to co parent we agreed on everything until his new girlfriend came along out of anger I gave her a heads up because he just keeps repeating his pAst cheating, lying, manipulative behaviour, selfishness... He already got to her and told her I was crazy so of course she disrespected me by saying she would e at the hospital when our son was born I told her don't u dare but he snuck her in while I was trying to get rest after pushing out our son he hasn't paid a cent of anything and only comes around when its convenient for him and she is always trying to tag along now I don't give a damn that they are together they deserve eachother I deserve better yes he has cheated no she didn't listen because he cheated on her with me (wanted to bring on labour couldn't bring myself to have sex with anyone else) he has agreed numerous of times to not involve her but he keeps bringing her around its none of her business about his time spent with his son I have done nothing but accommodate him on where he wants to do visitation I would go to his moms and stay up stairs or down so they could have alone time I have offered to go to his house which is 45 mins away from where I live my baby is 2 weeks old he tries to take him by himself he says I am keeping his son from him because I won't let him go alone he doesn't have enough experience with babies does anyone think his new gf is harassing and he is being difficult I can give a better example if someone asks for it


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/09/2016




Exactly what Jodi, Michelle, and dove stated.

Dove - posted on 09/09/2016




The other ladies are correct. IF you are breastfeeding and unable to pump you might be able to get a stipulation for visitations w/ you nearby for feedings... or to limit them to 2-3 hour stretches until the baby is a bit older... Otherwise, he has just as much of a right to be w/ his child as you do and just as much of a right to have anyone around the child that he wants (unless they are proven a danger in court).

I know your emotions are likely crazy and all over the place right now, so I certainly sympathize w/ some of your feelings... but that's just the way it is when you have a child w/ someone and are no longer w/ them.

Michelle - posted on 09/09/2016




Exactly what Jodi said.
Get yourself a lawyer and get custody, visitation and child support sorted out.
That way you will be told to back off and give the Father time with his child and the Father will know exactly when he gets to see his child.

Jodi - posted on 09/09/2016



3904 had sex with your ex, therefore you both cheated on his girlfriend, just so you could go into labour, and you expect her to TRUST him with you? Are you kidding me? I wouldn't let him go to visit his baby alone with you either (although I would have dumped his ass).

Your boyfriend has a right to have time alone with his baby. Using the excuse of "he doesn't have enough experience with babies". Guess what? Neither did you at one stage, but you have to learn somehow. That is not a good enough reason to withhold the baby. It's great that you will take the baby to his house, etc, but YOU are still there. You also can't dictate who he can have around the baby unless they are a danger to the child, and nothing you have said here indicates that this is the case. Just as he can't dictate to you who you can have around the child. He has a right to move on and have a new partner in his life and you don't have the right to then deny him time with his child because he wants her around as well.

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