the father of my middle son wants to take my son for me because I did not want his step sister in fake stepbrother to spend the night with him in my house

Saadiachase - posted on 02/03/2015 ( 10 moms have responded )

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has any mother deal with something so silly and so stupid this past weekend my middle son was supposed to come spend time with me and his father wanted his little sister and his girlfriend son to spend the night and I said no I have some family things that I want to discuss with my son my sons father got angry and threaten to take my child away from me because he said that my child has a stepsister and she has another brother he got upset and said that all the kids is a package THATS FAR FROM THE TRUTH! My children are mines and nothing more nothing less any help will be greatly appreciate. .....

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Jodi - posted on 02/03/2015

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If you've never been to court, then he can do whatever he wants. You are still not obligated to take the other children, but you have absolutely nothing to say he must hand over your son either. It might be a good idea for you to consider a court ordered visitation arrangement if he does this kind of thing frequently, because that will protect you from these threats.

Dove - posted on 02/03/2015

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He wanted to use you as free childcare for kids that are not yours and then threatened to take your son away since you didn't comply? He's a special kind of stupid, isn't he? lol

Get the legalities in place for custody and visitation as soon as possible. I would not play around w/ a 'loose cannon' such as he sounds to be.

Jodi - posted on 02/03/2015

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I don't know where you live, or the laws there, but I know you need to have court orders to do anything about this situation. Wait for the county state worker to call you back as that may help you, or at least point you in the right direction.

Jodi - posted on 02/03/2015

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You aren't obligated to take children that are not yours. You haven't mentioned what the custody arrangements are, but I'm assuming you have court ordered visitation? In which case, unless the court orders are changed, he can't just keep your child from you at a whim like that either.

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Saadiachase - posted on 02/03/2015

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And qhile having my son n car he tells my son that i dont love him and abanded him.he is a looser stuck wirh a lazy girlfriend with no ambition at all.

Saadiachase - posted on 02/03/2015

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So if i have a county state worker can i ask her for help trying to get joint custody of my son who turning 12yrs today.because I already have left her a message and ask for help.

Saadiachase - posted on 02/03/2015

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Jodi ww never been to court in 2009 we split and i had no were to go but a friends.but I talk to my kids on the phone text message am sending money through MoneyGram and Western Union then birthday gift and Christmas gifts so I did not abandon them and that's what he's trying to tell my 11 year old that I abandoned him that I don't love him and he said he's all to the kids because didn't nobody want to watch his daughter and his girlfriend son so they can party and then he told me they're not party and I was having an intimate dinner I feel so why can't you take you to dinner

Saadiachase - posted on 02/03/2015

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No he wanted to go party wirh his girlfriend and her sister n friends we been split up 6 yrs ago aint no talking about him his not that important to talk of nor about.and truthfully I do not have to let the kids spend the night at my house and I'm pretty sure a judge will agree with me you can not take someone's child from them because he has step siblings that you would like to drop off so you can go party smoke weed and drink alcohol

Trisha - posted on 02/03/2015

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It would be great if you attempted to help meld the families together. It would make it easier for your child in the long run, BUT you need to simply explain to the father than the only real opportunity you will get to bond with your child is with one-on-one time. What probably upset your ex is that he might have been under the impression you were going to be talking to your sons about him, or he wanted to have a weekend away with his girlfriend.

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