The "Grandfather"

Sheri - posted on 02/05/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




My father and mother have had nothing to do with me most of my life and now my son's life. How should I tell my son? He will ask one day about his blood grandparents. How am I going to tell him without him thinking that it's him they don't like or want anything to do with?

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Alexandra - posted on 02/16/2011




I grew up with my grandparents most of my life because my parents were unfit. I choose to not associate with them because of how they choose to live their lives, and I refuse to allow them access to my daughter. My view is that it is my responsibility as her mother, to protect her from negative, bad, abusive influences.

I know one day she will ask about them...but she has two wonderful grandparents (my husbands parents) who are very active in her life and upbringing. I plan to tell my daughter the truth, in an age appropriate way. I figure if she is old enough to ask a question, she is old enough to know the truth.

Melissa - posted on 02/05/2010




My husband's family is the same way. We tell our girls that they do have grandparents; but they do not come around to see us. This is incase we would run into them somewhere. This keeps it honest and from an embarrassing situation.

My girls do not seem to miss them since they really do not know them. Instead our girls have adopted thier own grandparents..a couple that lives down the road from us..the adopted grandparents and our girls love it.

Iridescent - posted on 02/05/2010




When ours ask about family members we never see, we just tell the kids that they choose not to be a part of our lives. They don't really understand it, but they begin to as they get older. Why? You simply don't know.

Tanisha - posted on 02/05/2010




i have he same issue.... but i will b making the choice to take them out of not only his life by mine as well!!! my biggest thing is wat would i tell my son about his biological father??? cuz i kno hell ask one day but at the same time i kno hes got a great daddy now!!

Tanya - posted on 02/05/2010




It's their lost, god brought someone special in the world if they cant handle it, so what, just make sure you be a better parent to your child.

Julie - posted on 02/05/2010




If he has a good support group of loving adults, it shouldn't be an issue, I think the main thing is just to be honest that your relatives are not supportive people - and you made the choice to sorround him and you with people who do care.

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