Allison - posted on 10/02/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )
He wasn't actually their step father, he was my Fiance' and we were planning on getting married, when he was diagnosed and passed away from Cancer 8 weeks later. They do not have any contact with their biological Father ( and I use the word Father loosely) because he was a very violent man. Tommy, my Fiance' was the best Father/Dad they ever had. Now, I have lost total control over the family unit. My teenage daughter feels I should pay for everything for her...cell phone, car payments, car insurance etc. and all we do is fight about money until I finally give in. My son has been suffering from depression and Bi polar since he was a small boy, but, since the death of Tommy, he has completely fallen down hill. I bring him to Doctor's, counseling, have tried home schooling him, nothing works. I am at my wits end and when I say this I mean am actually suicidal...I won't do anything because of knowing what it would do to these kids, but, wish everyday I could. I CAN'T HANDLE IT ANYMORE! I have an older daughter who is 26 and has a family of her own and she does not help me or my son. She does however, give my teenage girl, horrible advice.