the mother of my son's girlfriend just said that is okay my son can spend the night at her house!! he turned 18 and she turned 20 both just graduated from HS I am quoted a very strick parent

Cris - posted on 10/18/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )




Girlfriend's mother says okay to spend the night at her house and my sons is very furious because I don't let him go. He is 18 and she is 20.


Ariana - posted on 10/19/2012




As they are now adults I don't think it's a major issue.

I would just be frank about your concerns. Talk to him about why you are worried about this. It's better to have a frank conversation then just ban him from doing it.

If you don't give him some freedom he's going to go off on his own and find it himself. Then you won't be around to stop him from doing whatever he wants right?

September - posted on 10/18/2012




Your child is an adult. You don't have much say over her choices anymore.

Dove - posted on 10/18/2012




At 18 and 20.... they are both adults. It's not something I would agree with, but if SHE is ok with it.... it's really their choice. Granted, you can tell him that if he goes over then you won't allow him to live at home anymore... or something like that... since your house equals your rules. Some day soon he's probably going to realize that at 18 he is free to make his own choices though.

Have you told him why you don't agree with it... or did you just forbid it? Is he going away to college... or staying home? What do you think is going to happen to him when he's off on his own and realizes that his Mom can't control his every move anymore?

Good luck!


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