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Natusha - posted on 02/08/2016 ( 13 moms have responded )

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Can the father take my children out of town without telling me where he is taking them?

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Sarah - posted on 02/09/2016

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Unless you are the most amicable couple in the universe, and even then, it is wise to get all of your custody and visitation orders ironed out and signed by a judge. This is a perfect example of why you need this done. You don't really mind him taking the kids out of town but you'd appreciate a heads up, right? A joint custody decree can include that issue; that he must tell you one week (or whatever) before they depart that they will be out of town, where they will be and when they return. Unless you have a judge's order spelling that out, he (just as you) can take them out of town without notice.

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It depends on the court order. I wonder why it matters to you? If he wants to take them out of city or state to visit family or go on a trip with the kids, what's the problem? My husbands ex had it written into the custody papers that he can't take his son anywhere without her permission. Literally, we can't even take him to another state to visit family but SHE can take him out of the country and has multiple times. It's so ridiculous and spiteful. And the funniest part is she doesn't seem to understand that the only one she is hurting when she denies permission is her son because he doesn't get to be a part of the family on these trips. Talk about stupid. I would never do that to my kid. It's just asking for them to resent you forever.

Sarah - posted on 02/10/2016

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Jodi is right, what he does and where he goes during his time with the kids is his business. It would be nice for him to give you notice, especially if he goes out of the state. Until you get an order from a judge, he can do what he pleases. A judge may rule that his time with his kids is his time; and he does not need to tell you anything but the time they return.

Jodi - posted on 02/10/2016

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"It's that he won't inform me where he is taking them."

Unless it is spelled out that he must tell you, then he isn't required to. I agree with you that he SHOULD, but he doesn't have to.

Natusha - posted on 02/09/2016

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We were still together when I had my children. We have split now. I do get Childsupport. We have mediation papers not they are not court orders.

Ev - posted on 02/09/2016

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I made a new post but will answer your question.
Why do women not get custody, visitation and child support in order as soon as they have their child?

Natusha - posted on 02/09/2016

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Evelyn Witt what question did you want to ask? My problem isn't that he is taking them. It's that he won't inform me where he is taking them. I don't have any communication with his family if something bad happens. That's my problem with it.

Michelle - posted on 02/09/2016

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Exactly what Jodi said.
Unless you have court orders stating who has custody and what visitation the other parent has, he has just as much right as you to have the children.

Jodi - posted on 02/08/2016

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Then he can do whatever he chooses, just as you can. I would strongly recommend you talk to a lawyer and get custody and visitation orders sorted out. As it stands, if he takes them out of town and chooses not to bring them back, that's perfectly legal too.

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