Sarah - posted on 01/28/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )
I am a loving mother 5 year old twins. I adore and cherish my children more than I could ever have imagined possible. They are my heart and soul and everything I do in my life is for them.
My issue is their dad's girlfriend. She is and has always treated my role with disrespect and refuses to see me in person...only communicates in email. I reached out to try and know her (which isn't an easy task for a mama like me). But, I did this to try to bond for my children. I was received with a tutorial of how I should communicate with her and told that she basically didn't respect me. I have respect and appreciate that my children love her. I am happy to know when they are with my ex and her, they are being treated well. But I also think that she has a fantasy that she is their mother. I have many examples but my real thing that I struggle with is knowing that I am and always will be the mom. I have read stories of these biological moms who are in and out of the children's lives and the step mom's take over. I am fully involved, mother through and through.
I divorced their father, not my babies. Perhaps I am just venting and need to put this "out there". My heart aches when I am not with my loves. I just wish my ex found someone who could approach her own role with sensitivity, respect for me and a true value on motherhood.