The other woman and my concerns about her and being around my kids

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My husband of 16 years is leaving me for another woman. He was always the happiest man I have ever known and told me every single day how lucky he was and how much he loved me and couldn't be happier. He met someone in February when we went out with the couple as friends. Then he started talking to her via text contstantly. I begged him to stop and begged her to leave him alone so we could make our marriage work. He completely changed his personality and acts so cold toward me. I told him I would leave if he didn't stop talking to her and finally he did stop and said he chose me but in reality he acted like a sullen child for 5 weeks because he couldn't talk to her. He left 2 weeks ago and has now decided he wants a divorce. He is a police officer and he is leaving me after such a successful marriage until the last 8 months for a person who is a former drug addict. This could end his career if she goes back to it. She had to be talked out of going to a drug party less than 3 months ago. I explained to him that she will always be recovering and any relapse on her part could be a problem for him and I did not want my kids around her. I respect that she got clean once but she was so close to a relapse so recently it scares me. I feel she has disrespected me and so has he because she carried on with him knowing our long history and me. He won't even fight for our marriage at all. I don't want my kids near her and they don't want to be near her. They are extremely upset over this and my older daughter is so angry. I want to take their hurt away but it is impossible. I am hurting so badly I feel I can barely breathe some days. I have expressed my opinion of her and her past issues and my concerns with her being around my kids but he seems to think if she starts it he will just leave. I know this man, he will try to fix it because he is like that but you can't always fix people and I do not want to see him pulled into her mess. We have not divorced yet and he gives me mixed signals sometimes so I am so confused by him. If I had my way, he would go to counseling with me and we would work this out. I just don't want my girls dragged into any more drama because of their messed up relationship. Any suggestions?

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