The right way to re-enter my kids lives???

Brett - posted on 07/28/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone, my name is Brett and I am trying to re-connect with my children, and am trying to do it with out hurting my ex-wife. I have not seen my to children in close to three years. My $320 in weekly child support has always been paid. Its a complicated situation. I had struggled with alcohol and cocaine for the past 10 years. 3 years ago, I had relapsed after three years of sobriety. I agreed with my mother not to see the children for awhile, mostly because i was not being consistant. I would get some sober time then struggle this went on for quite some time. I have been sober now for 6 months and seriously working AA and seeing a child counselor on my own. I miss my children so much and always have. I cried every birthday etc. but it is not about me. It is about what is right for my to children. My mother is a very strong Italian women and pretty much controls the family. She is very happy with my Sobriety but now is saying your ex-wife does not want you to see them, they have her boyfriend in the picture, and she is saying they are not asking about me. I feel as if I should be fighting to see my children yet I don't want to cause any more pain to them. I guess I am just looking for the right way to go about this because the ex-wife has been extremely bitter since our divorce seven years ago... If I text her I pretty much get an F.U. back literally.

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Brett - posted on 07/28/2013

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Thank you so much, that is how I feel. I just don't want to hurt the kids in the process. thank you so much

Kristina - posted on 07/28/2013

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You have every right to see your children and be a part if their lives. My father was abusive- and I still have a relationship with him. He is my dad. I didn't pick him. But he's mine. If he walked away cause he couldn't control his anger- he will then be the dad that abused me- then left me.
Your mother needs to mind her business. Be a man and fight for your kids. Regardless of what either woman says. They deserve you- their father. Let them decide if they Don't want you in their life when they are older. But by not fighting for it- for them- they will never know how much you cared.

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