The rights of a father?

Nikole - posted on 04/06/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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The father of my son is not on the birth certificate, after 2 years the father wants to be able to see our son. I don't want his name on the birth certificate, but I think he needs to pay child support. What rights does he get by him paying child support?

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Michelle - posted on 04/06/2012

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If you have been your son's only caregiver for this long the courts won't let the father take him away. They will allow visitation.



Why are you so worried about him trying to get custody? Are you worried about him kidnapping your son or the court ordering it?



If it's kidnpping then you can make sure the visits are supervised.

Nikole - posted on 04/06/2012

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Ok just so I make my self clear I am letting them see each other and have NO problem with that once so ever, and never have and honestly never will. But at the same time i am the one who has been there every second of everyday for my son and don't want his father just showing up cause he has decided to get clean for a few months and some how take my son away from me. 3 1/2 with no concerns, questions, visitation, help or a word from his side of the family till now. So please don't think I am trying to keep my son from his father. That's the last thing I'm trying to do.

Amy - posted on 04/06/2012

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He gets the same rights that not paying child support gets. If he wants to see hid son he can take you to court to get visitation and it won't matter if he's paying, or hasn't paid a penny he's the father and has a right to know his son. Visitation and child support are two different things and don't go hand an hand.

Nikole - posted on 04/06/2012

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The whole issue with him paying child support is his idea. I see the good in it such as him stepping up and showing responsibility, but I see as a bad thing as him sneezing his way in and trying to get full custody and taking my baby boy away from me without me realizing it before its to late.

Michelle - posted on 04/06/2012

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legally if he is not on the birth certificate you first have to prove he is the father by DNA testing than a court can order child support but he will most likely be put on the birth certificate and be given visitation. They will not force a man to pay child support just on your say so, you will have to have proof and once that proof is there his rights magically appear and you will have little to no say in how custody and visitation will go a court will determine all this. So be sure of what you want to do before you pursue this. That being said if he wants to be a parent and be a part of his sons life let him children need both their parents.

Nikole - posted on 04/06/2012

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There is a lot more to the picture. I more than anyone want him to be there have wanted that since I found out I was pregnant. But he chose drugs and girls over his own son. Now 2 years later I truly want to give him another chance, but don't want him trying to get on my good side so he can try and get custody and I also think after 3 1/2 years of he should be able to help support our son.

Amanda - posted on 04/06/2012

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Rights and child support are to different issues. Every father has the right to know their child even if they never pay a dime in child support. So it doesnt matter if you go after him for child support, he has the right to this child no matter what.

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