Kimberly - posted on 04/18/2011 ( 11 moms have responded )
My daughter will be 2 in August. My husband and I have decided to try for our second baby in September/October, so my daughter will be right around 3 (give or take a few months) when the new baby comes. I know I don't want to wait much longer because we're both pretty sure we only want 2 children and I don't want the kids to be too far apart in age. The problem? I'm TERRIFIED! My daughter sleeps through most nights now, but occasionally she'll have a bad night and it just makes me think I'll never sleep with a newborn waking every few hours and then my daughter waking up as well! My daughter has been ill this week with a bad cough/cold and she's been very clingy and just wanting cuddles, so then I think with a newborn she wont get all the mommy/daddy time she wants and she'll be upset. I feel like it'll be selfish of me to bring a new baby into her world right now, but then I know she'll want a brother/sister close in age later on so they can play and be buddies. I'm very conflicted! I had no fears when I got pregnant with my daughter, I was so ready for it and excited!! But when thinking about having a second I'm just so scared and confused.
Has anybody else had these feelings? How did you deal with going from one child to two? How did your first child deal with it? Am I just being silly?? My friends seem to think in 5 months time (when we'll be serious about trying) I'll have changed my mind because my daughter will be older and more mature.