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I am currently in a relationship with a young single father. I love his daughter to bits, but as her father and I get more serious it is starting to play on my mind what will happen as she grows older.
At the moment she is a couple of months away from turning 2, and calls many people and objects Mum/Mummy when she wants attention or to direct people's attention. However, I was wondering what people felt about children calling their step parents mummy or daddy?
This is a big issue for me, as I believe that the children should choose (once they know what the word means!). However, my situation is rather complicated. My partner did not become a single dad out of choice, as his wife passed away. This means that if his daughter chose to call me Mummy, it could potentially cause problems not only with his wife's family, but also with him as it may bring up painful memories and he might not want his daughter calling another woman mummy.
To make things even more complicated, his wife was a good friend of mine. So I'm not sure how even I would react or feel if his daughter chose to call me Mummy.
I'm not sure if it's important to mention or not, but I don't yet have any children of my own and am quite young myself. I've also never been in the situation of being in a relationship with someone who has children before.
Any suggestions/advice/comments would be most welcome!