Trisha - posted on 03/20/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )
My husband and I have suspected my 16 yr old stepson has been gay for quite awhile. We have broached the topic with him, and tried to make sure it was not super uncomfortable to talk about.
Today I walked into the house (he had a day off school) to find him upstairs having a shower, and one of his male friends having a shower downstairs. YES, it may have been perfectly innocent, but if it was a girl showering downstairs, there would be no questioning it. The topic of sex would have to be brought up.
My husband thinks it is a waste of time for me to talk to him, because he doesn't think he will admit he is gay, but I think that it is worth reminding him that condoms don't only prevent pregnancy, and that he should start using them in ANY situation that he has sex. We don't want to encourage him to have sex, no matter the orientation, but we aren't going to be able to prevent it, especially when he gets extra time off school.
I think my approach would be to ask him WHY someone was showering in our home?
I don't want to make a big deal out of what he identifies as in relation to his sexual orientation, because ultimately it does not matter. Safe sex does.