Laura - posted on 02/20/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
Hi, just a quicky 360 on the above subject please!
Briefly, I have been with an extremly lovable 'wounded soldier' for about a year and a half. His wife left him for another man 8 years ago and had a child with this chap, (note the wounded soldier) . He has their boys every other week and loves them dearly however, since he and his x wife split he has been going to spain every year with the lads. There are now only his still single friend and himself left. He is a sweet sweet man and we spend almost every day together since we meet at his cousins 39th birthday. Now, further ingredients to the situation, a few months back my partner and I went to the same cousins 40th birthday, unfortunatly so did the guy my partners x wife ran off with, yep, akward. Now, the reaction my partner had was understandable, he was fumming that his cousin would invite this chap however, he didn't, the chap came with a girl that is friends with his cousins partner who, at the time was pregant and it was a very complex pregnancy. Now, because of this, he no longer talks to his cousin and has bad feeling toward the rest of the family who were there as they did not ask this chap to leave. Trouble is I am best friends with his cousins partner, now she is unable to come to mine as my partner is often there so, I go to her. Also the reaction he gave overwhelmed me, he was so emotional, I feel he still has so much anger because of his split. He has already told me he will never get married again, I have been there too so I can understand, he has also told me that when he has been that low he knows that no one will ever make him feel that low again. He often talks about me moving in also. Now what I would like your opinions on is this. I am a very insecure person, I do my best to work with this and not act like a clingy girli thingi however, I do not feel happy about him going away again, his mate may be moving there soon to, so this is something that may be ongoing. We have talked about it, he knows im not happy but also that I respect his need for that space. How can I deal with this in a positive way? Any ideas? What are your thoughts x Thank you x