Things to include in a PARENTING PLAN?

Kaylah - posted on 05/20/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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What can I include in a parenting plan? I have 2 children with my ex, my boys are 8 and 6. I have been seperated from their father for going on 4 years now. Before we can get divorced I need to do a parenting plan with him. I send my children to private school......I pay for all expences out of the child support I receive. Can I put in my parenting plan that he has to help with the costs of schooling? Does anyone have a parenting plan? What did you put in it?

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Rhiannon - posted on 05/22/2011

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Hi
Have a look at the publications on the New Zealand Family Court website for some good guides to what to include in a parenting plan. http://www.justice.govt.nz/courts/family...
You can put issues around payment of school fees in a parenting plan. Make sure you cover annual increases in fees, cost of uniforms etc.
The most important thing is to remember in my opinion is that you are negotiaiting on behalf of your children so don't sell them short!

Jodi - posted on 05/21/2011

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Well, in that case, he will have to agree to pay over and above what the CSA assesses. You CAN write it into a parenting plan, but he isn't obliged to agree to it, and the CSA can't enforce him to pay more than the calculated formula unless he agrees in a legally binding agreement:
http://www.csa.gov.au/parents_and_carers...

Jodi - posted on 05/20/2011

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Kayla, I notice you are in Australia, so I will answer with the laws of Australia in mind:)

With respect to private school, it depend whether this was something you BOTH wanted, or whether it was only something you chose to do with no discussion with him. If he has not had any say in sending them to a private school, he will have every right to object to having to paying for half, and is well within his right to request that any amount he pays towards the school fees be deducted from his child support. So yes, you CAN include it in your parenting plan, but depending on the circumstances, he doesn't have to accept it.

Are you receiving child support through the Child Support Agency, or directly?

Chairettie - posted on 05/20/2011

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I guess it couldn't hurt to ask him but I think the courts will only mandate what he owes in childsupport costs - what you do with that money I suppose is mostly up to you because it is for their care not one specific thing. My ex worked it out that he paid for their kids private school plus 250 a month. 250 was all he actually owed but he kept his word and she graduated at the same school 6 years later...however the mom was suppose to pay for a 4 year college - she only paid for 2 yrs of community college - maybe if they would have had it written and a legal binding document the mom would have stuck to her word.

Kaylah - posted on 05/20/2011

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So even If he pays child support.....I can request that he help with the education costs and the kids after school activities expenses?

Christy - posted on 05/20/2011

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Yes, your ex should pay for half of their private school fees, as well as half of anything else that comes up such as health care and sports.

In a parenting plan I would recommend a basic outline of discipline, examples of healthy meals, daily structure such as homework time, chore time, etc., and how you plan to support them financially. Also include visiting schedule on a calendar showing what will be normal for them to visit their dad. You may also want to ask your lawyer if there are specific things they are looking for in a parenting plan so that you don't leave anything out.

JuLeah - posted on 05/20/2011

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Yes, you can and after school activities (sports, summer camps, sport clinics) Put in vacation days, holidays, non school days .... how picky are you about hair cuts? Ear's getting peirced? Hair dyed?
High risk activities? Can he get them a dirt bike or take them sky diving?
Don't forget birthdays, mother's day, father's day .... any religious mile stones ... travel (how far can he travel with them? Out of state? Out of country?)
If one of you moves more then 50 miles from their school, who pays for visits?
What about events where you ought to both be there? School functions and such? Parent teacher meetings? Volunteering in the school if he wishes to do that.
Who has them on the insurence plan? Who pays the bulk of that? What about non emergency medical stuff? Do you have diet restrictions? I knew a coulple that split and, out of spite, he started to feed the kids meat. They had been raised on no meat, and of course they got sick as their bodies couldn't process that much meat in one setting. ... off the top of my head, this is what I thought of

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