Puliti - posted on 01/18/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
Well my step daughter is 9 and has been an only child her whole life. She has made it very very clear that she likes being an only child and lives with us full time with visits to the bio mom on the weekends. I play the mother role in every way besides the one that I want the most: biological.
My husband has always understood that I want a child of my own and he himself wants another child, but lately we've started talking seriously about it.
Now here comes the concerns. We are all still adjusting to being together full time. My step-daughter is very undisciplined and self-centered and it already has me worrying about having another child around her. Her mother has always been a troublemaker when it comes to the relationship between all of us and I know that a child of my husband and I's would only put ammo in her arsenal and have her playing head games with my step daughter. I also worry about how the stress would affect my pregnancy.
I've shared my concerns with my husband and at this point, we just want to start the conversation with her about a baby definitely joining the family in the future. Does anyone have any advice on what we should say, consider or do with this conversation? Is it even a good idea?