Val - posted on 03/11/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )
I have a 20 month old son. I have been married for almost 6 years. I have known my husband before we got married, so we dated prior to for years. There have been some issues that I have been trying to deal with since July 2014. Recently an incident occurred with family members that I was not happy about and confronted my husband about which he did not seem to take my side or want to confront family members about it. There is too much detail and personal information that I do not wish to speak about. Which I am sure you all can understand.
Anyway, since the incident a month ago, I have been thinking if divorce is the right thing to do. I do love my husband, but since the incident things have been different between us. And things are not normal the way they use to be. I feel like if I take my son and move out I will be happy, but then at the same time I am not sure if I can survive with my salary. I am very scared and afraid financially the most. I want to do what is best for my little boy. I don’t want child or spousal support from my husband, I don’t want anything from him. I just want to be happy myself and keep my son happy too. My son obviously won’t understand what is going on. He is a happy boy no matter what even if the environment around him changes he has been good with that a lot since he was born.
My husband has no idea I have thought about divorce. Our families live in a different province and we live in a different province. So I would not want to move to where his family is living (in the other province) and I have my family in the same province as his, but do not speak to them nor will I get in contact if I were to get a divorce.
Just wondering how to get through this without being or getting so emotional. I am a very emotional person and it’s hard just thinking about the word “divorce” because no women really expects it to happen and you want to obviously be happy with your significant other no matter what. I have tried to explain my thoughts and feelings to my husband but he just doesn’t seem to get it and he is always defending and taking his parents side and never my side whether I am right or wrong in a situation. I thought a husband is to stand by his wife’s side no matter what, but it just doesn't seem to be this way.
Please help! I just don’t know what to do…I am going to sleep upset every night wondering what to do…and just end up with tears rolling down.