this is embarassing but i need help figuring out when i concieved... my due date is sept 14 and i was wondering if its possible to concieve the day after my period?

Ashlyn - posted on 03/29/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Again I am ashamed but I was with two men, one the day after my period ( dec 11) and the other I started dating Dec 14th and I was with him that day and others after that. I'm having a hard time coping with this pregnancy because I'm ashamed of what I've done. I hope and pray that the second guy is the father. Can someone help me?

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Kelsey - posted on 03/29/2013

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Okay, So you got pregnant in Dec? How many weeks are you? I did the simple of math, (counted on my fingers) If you conceived in Dec, then you may be due in Aug/Sept. time. I would need to know how many weeks you are to give you an estimated week. When I found out I was pregnant, I figured down to the week I conceived, but I can't give you an exact date because it depends on how long your implantation process took and when you feeling symptoms and what not. There's still a chance the baby could be the second guys, but, I would think if you decide on being with multiple men that would try to use protection thus avoiding situations like this. I wasn't trying to be mean, I was just saying. Anyways, if you have doubts when the baby is born, you could always see into DNA testing. It's not always biology that makes daddy, but taking responsibility and loving the child no matter what.

Nikki - posted on 03/29/2013

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I conceived all three of my children either right before, during or immediately after my period. However, a paternity test is the only way to know for sure. In the end, it will be whoever it is, and it may not be what you want, but stressing over it now will only hurt your unborn child.

Take a deep breath, remember that we ALL make mistakes and bad choices, and then figure out how to come to terms with all of this so you don't spend the last several months of this pregnancy flooding your body (and baby) with unnecessary stress hormones..

Above all else, be HONEST with both of the men, as they will both resent you later if you are not truthful with them about the possibility that it may/may not be their child.

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Kelsey - posted on 03/29/2013

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As another lady said, the dates inbetween men are so close. I mean, I counted back fifteen weeks from this week, and I hit the week of Dec 19th. At this point, I can't really tell you because it just depends on who swam the fastest (pardon my french). I would try to get a DNA test done once the baby is born if you're that considered.

Nikki - posted on 03/29/2013

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Even with the ultrasound date, the days are so close together that it will be extremely had to know for sure without a paternity test (DNA test). Check out this website for some great info and resources: http://americanpregnancy.org/prenataltes...

Whatever you do, don't beat yourself up for your past indiscretions. And don't let people who can see your mistakes and point out the obvious make you feel bad either. We all make mistakes. Never forget that the biggest ones are the ones you don't learn from..

Regardless of who the dad ends up being, you need to figure out what it was that led you into this situation to begin with, because unresolved issues don't magically disappear with motherhood; they get worse. And you don't want your child to suffer as a result. What was it that you were looking for from these men? Attention? Physical intimacy? Love? Was it just a lack of control in the heat of a moment, and if so, why do you keep putting yourself in a position for these types of moments to happen? I don't know you, but I guarantee that what started out as a good feeling has you feeling knots of pain, uncertainty and regret in the depths of your stomach; feelings that most people outside of a situation like your own just can't understand or relate to, or at least for the same reasons. But you aren't alone. Many others have been in a similar situation or worse ones - so don't beat yourself up or focus on your past mistakes. Just focus on what it will take to make better choices for you and your new baby in the future. =)

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