This is my first baby, and I'm kinda nervous..

Lindsey - posted on 09/30/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Never had a baby before, I've been around them; but never had one of my own. I'm kind of scared, especially since I'm doing it on my own. Any words or advice?

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DeAnn - posted on 09/30/2012

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Books, babycenter, and if you're low income, there should be parenting classes in your area. Turn to moms you trust. How old are you?



It's ok to be scared. We were all scared the first time. Doing it on your own will be tough. Kids are expensive, demanding of your time and energy, and you have to give up things you want. I remember being 19 and unable to go out with my friends. I turned 21 and could neither afford nor get a sitter to go out and drink. Going to college and working 2 jobs while being on welfare was no picnic. I was able to get off the dole, and raise my son right, but it took a lot of sacrifice. But I wouldn't change it for the world, because it made me a better person.



When you see your baby for the first time, you will know real love. Let that be the driving force to do what you have to do.

Katherine - posted on 09/30/2012

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Get books out. Decide how you're going to raise your baby. The first is the scariest. Be prepared for anything and everything lol. Make sure you get what you need and not what you want. You'll be a mom before you know it, the instinct is just there. Decide if you are going to BF or formula feed. Decide if you're going to be an attachment parent or not. Lots of decisions! I wish I would have known before I had my first.



Are you going to have a midwife, or go to the hospital? Are you going to take birthing classes? I wish I would have gone with a midwife.....you can always research that. When you have the baby they may force him/her to your breast. If you don't want to BF be FIRM about it. Otherwise they almost bully you. I breastfed, but I didn't like the way they went about it. Breast IS best, but like I said, that's a decision you have to make.



I think I've put enough in your head for now. It's hard but SO worth it.

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