Threatened miscarriage

Sharyn - posted on 01/06/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )

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Last night my hubby took me to the ER because i started light bleeding, being my 2nd pregnancy i am naturally cautious, they did the intra vaginal ultrasound and they discovered no heart beat ..
i have to go to my OBGYN to confirm the no heart beat and see what steps to take from there, my light bleeding is still going, i have taken the dark road of greiving, altho the doctor at the ER said that it might still be ok ..... i dont have any cramping, or any "menstrual" pains or blood clots as yet ....

has any of you experienced this?
if so, how long does it take for the body to expel what is in the uterus? from your experience.

i am resting as per the ER doctors recommendation, but my heart is heavy.

thankyou

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Dezirae - posted on 10/09/2012

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im in my fist trimester an i hav dat goin on and im very scared an stressin real bad an i dnt no wat 2 do im young an dealin wit dis n im very scared does anybody no wat i should do

Rosie - posted on 01/06/2010

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this has happened to me. i was 9 wks preg. and had light brown spotting, and my back hurt. i had a previous miscarriage so i freaked and went to the er. they told me i had an eptopic pregnancy. but they said i should go to my regular dr. in the morning and have them do the procedure to remove the baby. the next morning i went and when they did their ultrasound they told me i didn't have an eptopic pregnancy, but there was no heartbeat. i had to wait 5 days for them to retest my hormone levels to see if they went up like they were supposed to and to do another ultrasound, cause i might not of been as far along as i thought i was. to my dismay there was no heartbeat again and my hormone levels didn't go up. i had to have a d&c, i have had a pregnancy where my body just expelled the baby but it was quick. i don't think i could've waited with this one though, knowing that i was carrying around a dead baby would've done more horrible things to my psychological wellbeing than just having the d&c.

if you do have to have a d&c (i'm praying that everything is alright with your baby), but if you do i suggest being knocked out for it. i wasn't and i'm not trying to scare u but it was absolutely horrible listening to that. it's not necessary and my dr. didn't even give me the option so i didn't even think about asking, and i really wish i was given that option.

i had terrible feelings of guilt afterwards, i didn't think it was my fault or anything, i just felt like i basically just had an abortion (even though my baby was not alive), and i had a really hard time overcoming that feeling. what if the dr's were wrong and i just killed my baby? i found talkig about it with an understanding friend (my baby's daddy wasn't around) was the only thing that helped. it took a long time to get over it and i still think about it often, but i am doing better. a loss of a child is heartbreaking, and i am praying for your family.

Jenny - posted on 01/06/2010

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Hi Sharyn. I am so sorry to hear that. I have experienced 2 miscarriages and both were devastating. I will caution you to be very careful and ask for a second ultrasound before they determine what options you have. I have a very dear friend who was told twice that her pregnancy miscarried and there was no baby, but her son is now 6 and thriving just fine. She waited and made the docs look again. We still do not know why the ultrasound di not show her baby. The ER doc was good to recommend you see your OB before doing anything. I will pray for you Sharyn. If the worst is true, then know that your sweet baby is in the arms of God. Let us know what happens and do not be afraid to share your joy or grief with us. While we cannot physically hug you, we can be supportive.

Jenny B.

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Hi Sharyn, I too had bleeding and a threatened miscarriage with my second. Ultrsound also could find no heart beat. My son is now 10, so hold in there, those internal ultrasounds are not very good at detecting heartbeats for some reason. How far along are you? That could have some part of them not finding a heartbeat. I really hope all turns out good for you.

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Sharyn - posted on 01/07/2010

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hi ladies
i have been resting to the best of my capabilities, my husband had to return to work today, and i've tried to tend to my one year old on my own, thankfully she is a easy child, and pleases easily. i dont have anyone near to help me so i'm on my own and just watching what i do.
i have my blood test tomorrow then my obgyn appt on the 18th ... hopefully by then the bleeding will have stopped and this is all just a bad dream.
i havent had any blood clots etc (sorry to be so blunt) just some period pains - cramped just once and my lower back feels tired and sore ... just like with periods ....
i do hope it all works out, as mothers you know you dont want anything to happen with your child and i do not believe in abortions for the wrong reasons ... i only cry when talking to someone about it .... only a couple of people know, but my inlaws etc do not know, they didnt show much enthusiasm with this pregnancy let alone my first one so i'm being a rebel and not giving them any information on how its going. i just cant do it, i'm tired and i'm closed off in my little world dealing with it as i can and trying to be a mother at the same time .....
if it does come down to having to have the D&C i will choose to be knocked out, i do not want to be awake in any shape or form thru it, while they get rid of my unborn child .... regardless of how old they are, this baby is a child of my heart and i will always love him or her if the worse comes to happen.
but i am tryhign to be positive and think that all will be fine .....

anyways i'm sorry to mumble on about probably mindless jibberish ..... this is the only place i've come to open up about it.
xx

Nic - posted on 01/07/2010

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Im so sorry. Ive had this happen and it is so hard ((Hugs)) take care of yourself and the only thing I can recommend is to rest.

Ruby - posted on 01/07/2010

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Another note, I was reading another post about being knocked out for the D&C. I was totally asleep for mine and I wouldn't do it any other way.

Ruby - posted on 01/07/2010

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I am so sorry you are going through this! I had a similar experience with my first preganancy. They did an ultrasound early and there was a heartbeat, but then I started bleeding a week later and the ultrasound showed no heartbeat. I didn't have any cramping either. My OBGYN suggested a DNC the following day. I went with it and was very glad. I don't think I could have emotionally gone through the whole miscarriage experience. I would highly recommend it if they are sure there is no heartbeat. On another note, I also spotted during the following pregnancy that lasted from 8-13 weeks gestation. My daughter was perfectly fine and the rest of the pregnancy was uneventful. We think I was spotting due to the increase in hormone levels that occur during the 1st trimester. I understand what you are going through and you will be in my prayers!

Tricia - posted on 01/07/2010

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I had bleeding at about 10 weeks. This lasted for about a week and tapered off. I also had an experience with not finding a heartbeat. I ended up carrying to term. I hope you find your answer today.

Sneaky - posted on 01/07/2010

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Hi Sharyn, I was 11 weeks along when I started very light bleeding (no clots) and my morning sickness stopped completely. A week later I woke in the middle of the night with very bad cramping, heavy bleeding with lots of clots and a few hours later I gave birth to my baby.
I had had my 'down syndrome risk assesment' blood test done earlier that week and my hormone levels were ten time less than they should have been at 12 weeks, but I did not find that out until I got to the ER :o(
I really hope that your angel is OK, just keep in touch with your doc and follow her advice and you will know that you have done everything in your power to look after your bub. If the absolute worst does happen, know that you can survive it - one minute at a time if you have to.
Good luck and best wishes :o)

C. - posted on 01/06/2010

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Oh my God, Sharyn! This has not happened to me, but I am sorry it's happening to you. I hope the ultrasound was wrong and that your baby is fine. Prayers and Blessings.

Tara - posted on 01/06/2010

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Bleeding when you are first pregnant is the scariest thing. I bled early in the pregnancy with both my daughters (my OB figures that it was because I burst small vessels in the placenta due to high blood pressure). Hopefully this type of bleeding is what you are having. Try to rest and relax as much as you are able and with any luck this will just be something like a burst vessel in the placenta and not anything more sinister.

Dana - posted on 01/06/2010

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Sharyn, I hope everything is okay and know that we're all praying, sending good vibes, whatever each one of us deems appropriate! Keep us posted!

Sharyn - posted on 01/06/2010

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thankyou ladies.
i dont like waiting games ... im very impatient especially when it has to do with this.

Nicole - posted on 01/06/2010

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I am so sorry for you. My husband and I went through this a few years ago. I started bleeding and then went to the hospital and there was no heart beat. My doctor did and D nC on me because she did not want to take a chance with the baby decaying inside and causing issues for future pregnancy. The baby had been gone about a week when i started to bleed judging by the size in the ultrasound. Since then I have had another Child and he is now 3 years old...but I still think about that baby. The main thing that you need to understand is that this does happen for a reason. Most of the time, the baby was not devoloping correctly and would have never been able to survive. I know that this is not comforting right now, like I said I have been there. Once again, I am Very sorry

Mel - posted on 01/06/2010

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I had a threatened miscarriage at 7 weeks they said there was no point in doing an unnecessary exam and just to wait til the ultrasound which they organised for the next day. I had ligt bleeding for 2 days with no pain. They said its very common. Im 13 weeks now and baby is still healthy. Good luck

Christelle - posted on 01/06/2010

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Sharyn- I too had a miscarriage. I was 7 weeks, but after 5 years of trying to conceive it was the worst pain in my heart that I've ever felt. They couldn't find a heartbeat (I went to 2 doctors). I had to make a very difficult decision. I had a D/C, and in my local area they have what is called a "Share Burial". In a share burial, all of the families that had miscarriages/stillborns within the month get a burial service at a local cemetery. I lost the baby on Valentine's Day, and buried it on March 11.



I never thought I'd get pregnant again. However, six months later I conceived again. I had a very difficult pregnancy from low progesterone to preeclampsia, I was due in May 2009. I gave birth to my daughter 9 weeks early, in March. Would you believe that she was born on the one year anniversary of burying our first baby?



The purpose of this story, is that God will not give you more than you can handle. It doesn't mean that it makes it any less painful. It also is to tell you to get another opinion. They didn't find a heartbeat for my daughter either, but we rechecked a few days later, and there it was.



I would suggest getting in touch with a support group to help you through.



I will be sending my positive thoughts your way.

ELizabeth - posted on 01/06/2010

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I'm sorry to hear that. Losing a baby is very hard. My mother had three miscarriages before having me and I was three months early. But was okay. ANd had another miscarriage when I was four. I almost lost my daughter when I was pregnant with her in 08 but thankfully didn't. But she came a few weeks early. She was suppost to be born sometime in April and came in March of 08 on the 17th saint patty's day. I feel so blessed. I'm sorry to hear again and hope the baby is okay and you don't lose it. *hugs*

Renee - posted on 01/06/2010

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Sharon - I'm sorry this is happening to you. I had 5 miscarriages due to my blood clotting between me and the babies. Finally had to use drug therapy to have children, and it worked I have 2 wonderful kids now. Anyway, all my miscarriages were different and all were in the first trimester. Some seemed to go on for a week of bleeding some only a few days like a heavy period. None of this will lessen your sadness though. So no matter what happens, take it easy and I would strongly recommend you talk with a counselor if you do lose this child. It is a real baby and you have real feelings for it so don't let anyone tell you differently. Loss is never easy. I am hoping for good news for you and your family. Take care.

Sharyn - posted on 01/06/2010

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thankyou everyone for your thoughts and prayers.
i spoke to my OBGYN and she said to rest and drink alot of water and she will send a blood test order to the blood lab close to me so i could take another test and see whats going on with my body. she said that to her it was too early to tell with the heart beat and if i continued to bleed too much then it was a chance of miscarriage. as yet there are no clots and no heavier bleeding and no cramping, so i'm holding onto the chance that my baby is ok.
The er ultrasound had measured the yolk sak and it was at 6 weeks 5 days growth, but i was supposed to be at 10 weeks, my obgyn said she was giving me the benefit of the doubt because due dates arent always correct. (how they measure your due date from the first day of your last period is beyond me but anyways ...) ..... so i have to wait and see if the bleeding subsides or if it gets worse.

Stacey - posted on 01/06/2010

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Hi Sharyn,

I pray everything will be ok. With both my kids I would bleed in my early pregnancies around the 8 weeks mark for about a month. The doctors confirmed everything was ok with the babies. I only bleed with no cramping, no pain or clots. I'm not to sure why, but it happened with both my boys.
Just rest now and wait to see what the doctor says.
Take care,

Sonora - posted on 01/06/2010

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Sharyn,
I cannot express how sad I am for you, this is an un-immaginable pain for me, i have had a misscarage before but it was in my sleep- i woke up and fell off the bed i was in so much pain, but i had just found out that i was pregnant so it was very early on, my sister however had a miscaraige when she was about 5 months along and was already very attatched to the baby, this is a very sad subject... I hope everything is ok for you and your baby- as 'jenny' said, doctors sometimes are wrong. and maybe it was just a sign that you needed to take it easy. I will pray for your family. good luck.

Krista - posted on 01/06/2010

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Oh Sharyn, I haven't experienced this, but I just wanted to tell you that I really hope that the ultrasound was wrong and that your baby is still okay. Please don't be shy in reaching out with your grief and fears if you need to, okay?

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